Hello everyone to stay anonymous I decided to make a burner account for some advice.
Me (23 almost 24) and my GF (20F) been dating for almost 2 years and it’s long distance relationship and today she told me she decided that run away from during her return trip from the UK without her family knowledge and move across the country to the state I’m living in but my issue is she only has 200+ USD (didn’t told me the exact amount she has in savings). And I’m still living with my family because job searching has been turning up empty.
Her family doesn’t exactly give her respect nor really care about her but her bank account is linked with her dad’s and I’m trying to stay neutral in this situation but I would prefer her to stay with her family to save up money so she can be a little more stable when she moves across the country. And to be honest I know I should support her but deep down I feel like she’s making a bad decision.
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$200 and nowhere to go? That’s not escaping, that’s creating a bigger mess.
You’re not wrong for thinking this is a bad idea, running away with $200 and no plan is just not safe. If she really wants out, help her make a solid exit plan that doesn’t leave you both stranded.
This isn’t love conquering all, it’s a financial and emotional crash waiting to happen. Tell her to pause, get her own bank account, save up, and run toward stability not just away from chaos
The best thing you can do is be honest with her about your concerns without making her feel like you’re trying to stop her dreams. Maybe suggest making a plan together for saving money, finding jobs, or figuring out where she’d stay once she gets there. That way, you show you’re on her side, but also being realistic about what it takes to make a big move work.
She’s hoping your family will just take care of her.
Is she being physically or sexually abused by her family? (Not that financial or emotional is ok, but they aren’t necessarily immediate existential dangers.)