I matched with a guy on hinge in late May and we were talking for a while before meeting as we were both on long holidays one after another.
We finally met on Saturday night and it was amazing, he was so sweet and funny and organised the date and even paid for it and we ended up staying out chatting for 6 hours!
His communication was always not great in terms of that he’s not a massive texter but when he does text, there’s a lot of conversation, it’s just literally every 6-9 hours he replies.
On Saturday he said he’s so looking forward to seeing me again and can’t wait 2 weeks to see me (as that was when we were next free) so we’re seeing each other mid week instead.
My only problem is that I have an anxious attachment style and I’m a really good communicator. Now, I’m not expecting every 2 seconds for a reply but in my opinion if you’re interested in someone, you’d make more effort to be In more contact with them.
We both have important jobs and busy lives and dogs, however, I feel like I make more of an effort with the communication.
I really like this guy and I think we’re extremely compatible but how do I go about having the conversation about communication?! Or is that a little overkill for the timeframe we’ve been talking?!
Any advice would be appreciated 😊
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It’s totally okay to want more communication, but bringing it up gently after your second date might be a better time so it doesn’t feel too intense too soon.
You’re not too much you’re just anxious and he’s just chill which messes with your head. Wait for the next date and let his actions speak before jumping into deep talks.