My boyfriend (M16) and I (F15) are still young, but we’re both really content with our relationship and even talk about marrying each other someday. I’ve been thinking about how we’ll handle long distance—he’s going to college 8 hours away, and when I go to college later, I’ll be 15 hours away from where he’s studying. We’ll still see each other during summer breaks. We’ve had a lot of fights but always manage to communicate, even in tough times. We’re both willing to grow and meet each other’s needs, but I’m scared that might change. How can we maintain a strong relationship while in college? We have only been together for nearly 8 months. I know it’s still very early to have thoughts like these but I really love him😭😭
TL;DR,: We’re a happy young couple who want a future together, but college and long distance might make things hard. We communicate and grow, but I’m scared that could change. How do we stay strong?
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Enjoy what you have now, accept there’s near a 100% chance you’ll break up in the first semester.
I’m going to hold your hand while I say this but: it’s pretty unlikely you’ll stay together, and that’s ok! You never know what will happen and not saying it won’t work, but most people don’t stay with the person they are with at 15—especially someone they are already fighting with and have only been together with for 8 months. Love feels very intense at 15 and first love is always special, but only time will tell if it works. You can give it a go but don’t be afraid to let it go either.
How do you know for sure? Have you been accepted, has he been accepted?
Overall this happens and people breakup.
Other times people try to make it work by making grand gestures that fail (he could take a year off, he could go to a local college the first year, you could try to graduate early/online school). But again likely to fail.
Had this situation with my high school girlfriend, and it worked out. Very very rare though
You most likely won’t be together by the time he leaves for college. I’m sorry to break it to you. Very low chances of teen couples staying together well into adulthood. You have a lot of life to live and experience and people to meet. Don’t anchor yourself to one person so early in life.
The reality is that you will change a lot in the next few years – I do mean a lot – and so will your bf. Chances are you’ll not be as interested in each other for a relationship. It is ok. You might continue as distant friends or acquaintances.
You are going to be such a different person in 3 years, and different again and again until your the changes start slowing down in your mid 20s. This isn’t a problem whatsoever for 15 year old you to worry about, let 17/18 year old you handle it — she’s got a bit more experience, a bit more emotional maturity, and a bit more wisdom. She can handle it, she’s got this.
I dated the same guy 6th-12th grade and it was a whole lot of drama even being together in the same city and home schooled in highschool, so together daily. We didn’t survive me going to college at 17 in even the same town.
I know you have probably heard grown ups say this and you probably thing they just don’t get it and can’t relate to the love that you and your boyfriend have but At 15 you are no where near the person that you are going to be in life and you don’t know what the kind of love that marriage requires is really about at that age.
He is going to change with age and at college and you are going to change too.
You haven’t even been together for 8 months. You should just cut your losses and be friends and date other people. I know you think you love him but you haven’t even dated around long enough to know what you want. Heck your brain isn’t even fully developed until age 25.
Signed someone who went through what you’re going through at your age but with a longer dating past with said person and closer distance and still didn’t end up married to him but did marry one of my friends since I was 14 when we were 30 and have my ideal picture perfect life because we grew up and figured out life before being together.
Sweetheart…don’t stress about this. I promise it will not be an issue. Just give it a few months and you’ll understand.
You accept that this is the end. High school relationships don’t last when you live in the same city, let alone long distance. And long distance relationships are stupid anyways.