I’ve been with my boyfriend since January 2025 and I will say he’s the most kindest and most caring person ever . I can’t count even one flag about him . I honestly love him very much. He also goes to the gym & takes care of himself well so that’s also a plus plus
Only thing I’m worried about is his goals for the future. I know he wants to pursue content creating and become a personal trainer . He did not attend college (which is completely fine by me) but I do feel like he’s a little reluctant when it comes to actually putting in the work to do what he wants to do .
I’ve tried helping him as much as I could. I do content creating full time so I know how to do it , and helped him create his account and give him a bunch of advice . He made a couple videos then just stopped doing it
He also wanted to get a certification for personal training so I encouraged him to take an online course for the certification; he didn’t have a computer so I bought him one so he could be able to complete it. Turns out he never finished it and stopped paying for the monthly subscription ( I understand though he was going through a lot at the time )
Then I actually met a personal trainer and asked to get his information for my boyfriend and when I told my boyfriend about it he didn’t really want to go through with it
It just sometimes sucks because sometimes I be putting in all my energy into someone’s goal that doesn’t want to actually do it themselves despite saying they do ?
Honestly I just want the best for him , I don’t plan to leave at all but not sure if I should say something about it or how I should talk to him about it?
There also have been similar situations like this , for example when he was having family issues he wanted to leave and get a place for us to live in . I was basically doing all the work to help find a place so he can get out of a toxic situation , I even spoke to people and we visited a couple of places and was about to secure a deal ( didn’t happen though since we felt it would be better to save at the time and he moved in with his dad) but he never gave me apartment recommendations or seemed to care , I guess he knew I was doing the researching so maybe didn’t bother to look ? Idk
But I just want advice because I truly do want the best for him and I don’t want him stuck at a minimum wage job for the next couple years , I really do believe in his goals.
TL;DR, what should I do in this situation?