I have been dating a guy since past two years, got engaged and when I began the relationship I had mentioned that I want to settle down in marriage and not just the Livin girlfriend and that time he agreed and then propose to me four months in the relationship. But now he is saying marriage is a decision he cannot keep planning about the marriage because he is not still sure and can’t decide because according to him he could love me and still keep being with me without a marriage And my Indian values make me more inclined to marriage and also we don’t have kids before marriage and I want to really have kids and I’m already 31. He regularly forces me to meet his family and expects me to put up with their rude behaviour because that’s a prerequisite to getting married to me. He says he needs to see me be okay and happy around them all the time and never complain even if they’re doing something wrong And frankly that is causing some stress in me because I’m currently doing a thesis and it requires some time as well. His mother constantly criticised Indian people by saying Indian peoples toilets are dirty and Indian women are judgemental et cetera et cetera. For which I said pretty bad things and I said I’m not going to tolerate this. Now I can see there is a clear resentment in them even though they’re British Indian, they feel they are superior to us. I don’t have any issues with his dad or his brother, but his mother constantly makes me feel excluded for example when she went to a vacation she came back and she handed over candy bars to both her sons when I was just standing right there and when I said this made me feel excluded and bad, my partner said it’s petty to be sad over a chocolate bar, but the problem is he keeps giving me conditions to marry him.
TL;DR: I want to get married and my boyfriend wants to be with me giving me fake hopes of marriage, but I just can’t prove it I have no idea how to handle the situation