MIL wants my husband to co sign for BIL. BIL is engaged, no job, and planning to rent a Home in Seattle with his Fiance. BIL has so many history of owing people money and always asking money from my MIL and sometimes to my husband. None of my business until they want my husband to co sign for his rent. For context, my BIL used to live in an apartment all financed by my MIL. All his furnitures etc. In short he is a spoiled almost 30 year old man.
I told my husband to say no because we just bought our own house. My husband didnt want to say Yes anyway. Mind you, BIL has no job. How is he gonna pay the rent of $4000 a month? For a rent? His rent is even higher than my mortgage.
And what if he fails to pay them? Then who is the bank coming after, ofc my husband.
I was upset because MIL is pushing my husband to do it for his brother. She would complain how he is spoiled but she is the one tolerating his lifestyle. He is a grown man.
I was upset because MIL told my husband to not tell me. She always want my husband to keep secrets from me which my husband doesnt do anyway because we dont hide secrets from each other.
MIL told my husband that she will be the one liable of he wont pay. Then my husband told her that if thats the case why dont you be the one to co sign the lease.
BIL is too bougie and cant afford certain lifestyle and why I am involving myself, is because they want my husband to do something that is not gonna benefit out family and will just put him in trouble knowing his brother lazy.
MIL feels like she is not using some part of her brain.
BIL has bad credit scores and wants to be the man in his relationship and want to act like the man even if he cant afford such lifestyle. Also, MIL is giving him AGAIN $4000 as a “gift”. He will use it as a part of downpayment of their apartment/house. Him and his fiance is putting money together.
My husband and I talked to each other and we both agreed if thats what they want to do with their lives, they are all free to do it, just dont involve us.
I felt the entitlement of my MIL in asking my husband that.
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Your husband may need to be blunt with his mother to drive it home.
“[Wife] is my family and my priority. I am not going to put my family in financial trouble just to fund the lifestyle my brother can’t afford. I will not be co-signing his lease. Do not bring this up again.”