I’ve been in a confusing emotional situation that’s taken a serious mental toll on me. I’ll explain as clearly as I can, hoping for some perspective.
🔹 The Background:
A few months ago, I got close to a girl — let’s call her D — over Snapchat. We started talking regularly. We’d open up about life, trauma, funny moments, and feelings. She had just come out of a toxic relationship with a guy who manipulated her and wanted sex without commitment. I supported her emotionally, never pushed anything, and genuinely cared.
Eventually, I caught feelings and confessed them — gently and respectfully. She said, “We’re friends.”
🔹 The Goodbye:
I didn’t want to stay stuck in a grey area. I told her I needed to step away for my emotional peace. We exchanged heartfelt goodbye messages. It felt heavy… but necessary.
I thought that was the end.
🔹 But then…
She continued sending me random snaps. Not daily — but once a week, mostly on Fridays. Some were general, but a few felt personal or symbolic (e.g. a rose bouquet, a Shinchan cartoon we used to laugh about). At the same time:
She stopped opening my snaps instantly — often taking 24+ hours.
She broke streaks with everyone and turned off last seen.
When I reached out with concern once, she replied coldly: “You’re the one who said not to talk.”
But then still sent another snap after that.
When I deactivated Instagram, she sent a snap the very next day.
Now, her Snapchat score hasn’t moved in days. Seems like she went fully inactive after a few last symbolic snaps.
🔹 The Emotional Impact:
Meanwhile, another girl has started showing genuine interest in me. She’s warm, consistent, and present. But I feel emotionally unavailable — like I’m still mentally stuck in the grey zone that D left me in.
🔹 My Questions:
Was there ever something real between us?
Or was I just a temporary emotional distraction?
Are her random snaps and silence a sign of her missing me, or just emotional breadcrumbs?
And how do I move forward without reaching out or chasing answers?
I’ve done everything I can with maturity and respect. I haven’t begged, blamed, or disrespected her boundaries. I just want peace… but I keep looking back.
TL;DR:
Got emotionally close with a girl (D) who had a rough past. I confessed feelings, she said “we’re friends,” so I respectfully walked away. But she kept sending random snaps for weeks after that — some symbolic, some general — despite cold replies and silence. Now she seems completely inactive. I’m emotionally drained, confused about her intentions, and unable to move on — even though someone else is showing genuine interest. Looking for clarity and advice on how to heal and move forward.