This is something I’ve been holding in for a while, and I’m finally at a point where I need to say it out loud. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and while our relationship has been kind of rough, I still love him so much. We’ve been through a lot together.
But over the past year, something in me has shifted, and I don’t really know how to deal with it.
Lately (this past year), I’ve been thinking about women romantically and sexually. And every time I’m with my boyfriend, I catch myself thinking about how much better it might feel to be with a woman. To be honest, I don’t even feel sexually attracted to him anymore, and I can’t remember the last time I genuinely wanted to be intimate. When we are, it just feels forced.
This has been causing me a lot of internal conflict. I care about him deeply and the last thing I want is to hurt him. But at the same time I’ve never fully explored that part of myself before. So i am not sure if it is normal to feel this way at some point of your life?
I’m scared to bring this up to him because I don’t want to break his heart and also i feel really happy with him and. But I also know it’s not fair to stay in a relationship where I’m emotionally and physically checked out.
If you push something like this down for long enough, does it eventually come back or just disappear?
TL;DR:
In a 3-year relationship, but lately I’ve been questioning my sexuality and no longer feel attracted to my boyfriend. Not sure how to handle it.
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If you think you might be a lesbian there is no protecting his feelings. You just need to be open and tell him you are not attracted to him.
if you never try you will always wonder. if you try and you’re straight after all (which i highly doubt) then you’ll have learned something about yourself. good luck, babe.