I (15M), have had a crush on this girl (16F), for a really long time. I’ve known her since like 2019 and we’ve only gotten closer since I first met her. We’re super close and we share some really nice moments together, but I don’t think she’s into me. I really like her, and when we’re together, everyone assumes we’re dating. I got fed up the other night and wrote down exactly what I wanted to say to her, and recorded it. I was going to send it to her but got nervous. I would tell her in real life, but I get very nervous around her. I don’t want to ruin what we have, which is why I need your guys’ advice. Should I tell her how I feel or just not say anything?
I Have Feelings for a Girl and I Don’t Know if I should Admit Them
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Why not just ask her “will you go on a date with me on Friday?” If she says yes, she’s at least open to the possibility, if no, back in the friend zone but at least you tried.
There’s a quote that goes like this:
“Regret is the thing we should fear most,. Failure is an answer. Rejection is an answer. Regret is an eternal question you will never have the answer to.”
Go for it. Life is too short, you’re still so young, take chances!
Coming from a guy in his 20s who regrets not asking out a girl in high school still, ask her PLEASE. Rejection feels a whole hell of a lot better than regret. Even if she says no and it hurts for a while, you’d have done the right thing man.
Don’t do it over text or video either. At the VERY least call her but ideally in person and in private. If you don’t do this you may be depriving yourself of a wonderful experience.
And who knows? Maybe she likes you back 🙂 you’ll never know unless you ask and if you don’t you’ll always wonder if she ever did.
This is tough, because you’re friends. If she rejects you, then your friendship might not survive.
If you choose to go forward with this, you could try: “I really like, and I’d love to explore a romantic relationship with you. Are you interested in that?” If she says yes, then take her on a cute date (where you can be alone and talk), then tell her all those things you wrote down. Don’t lead with all those things you wrote down. It can create a lot of pressure for a young woman.
She’s older????!!!!
ahhhh the good ole days, when i was in highschool, im a girl, i used to have the biggest crush on this guy a class ahead of me. I’m 26 now. Honestly I regret never talking to him, we could have been friends even if he didnt like me. When you’re older youll realize having a crush on someone is the most normal thing in the world. I recommend talking to her, or maybe talking to one of her friends to introduce you to her. You never know , she might like u back 😉
sounds like you’re close… I’d try and kiss her, gently… maybe cup her face and get closer and let your actions speak for themselves.. if she doesn’t respond then you know not to bother trying to explain? One way of going about it at least 🙂
If she does go out with you, and you really like her, don’t press so hard for sex really fast and take a chance knocking her up. BE CAREFUL WITH HER.
If you really value the friendship, it’s okay to be honest as long as you’re ready to respect her response, whatever it is. You don’t have to make it dramatic. Just let her know you’ve caught feelings, but her friendship matters most. Honest communication goes a long way.