Me (25F) and my boyfriend of 3 years (25M) are having trouble seeing a future together after moving in with each other. Should we call it quits?

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For some context, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years. It’s been a fairly healthy relationship, although we have had our share of issues. Most of the time we really enjoy each other’s company and get along well. We recently moved into a house together that he bought and we’ve been living together for almost 2 months now.

I’ve had a difficult time adjusting and I miss living with my family a lot which means I’ve been spending a lot of time back and forth. My boyfriend knows how hard the move has been for me and he feels like I’m not happy in our house together. This has caused us both to really question the relationship.

On one hand we really love each other and our relationship isn’t inherently bad, but on the other hand, the move has seemed to drive us apart and high light a lot of our issues with one another. We’re both pretty confused at this point and a little heart broken :/ the past 2 months haven’t felt the same at all. We’ve been fighting a lot more often and doing our own separate thing which seems like the opposite of how moving in together was supposed to go.

Should we take this as a sign that we’re not right for each other and end the relationship? Or is this just a rough patch and maybe we just need to get over the adjustment period of living together? Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated.

TL;DR, me and my boyfriend of 3 years are having issues after moving in together. We’ve been living together for 2 months now and have been fighting more and spending less quality time together. We’ve now considered breaking off the relationship, but we’re both not sure if that’s the right thing to do as we have such a history and love each other very much. What should we do?

Comments

  1. Initial_Donut_6098 Avatar

    You sound pretty meh about the whole relationship, to be honest. It sounds like you want to stay together because you’ve put the time in and it’s mostly fine; but there’s a reason you want to run back home at every opportunity. You say that “he feels” that you’re not happy at your new place, but that’s just facts, right? You’re not happy.