I know how stupid this sounds downloading Reddit for an opinion and in the future I may look back embarrassed but, I genuinely don’t know what to do. I 16F am in this interesting love thing with this boy 16M and for privacy reasons I wont reveal names. This boy I am head over heels with never gives me a straight answer me and him are talking in his room and we had that what are we talk and he replies with, “You always shut me up when I call you my girlfriend.” HELLO?? YOU NEVER ASKED ME TO BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND. And then when I say that he asks me to be his girlfriend. I don’t want him to force himself to say it to make me happy but I want to be his girlfriend like he was sleeping next to me on the couch and all I could do was stare at him and say sorry for forcing myself in his life and constantly being around him like I genuinely love this boy so much but if it means I have to distance myself then I will if I will just be a burden to him. What do I do. Do i ask him out or should I let this drag on.
This boy makes me confused
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I never thought I’d say this at the time when I was 16, but as someone a lot older then you, I would honestly focus on hobbies, studies, friendships, and goals rather then wasting to to much of your energy on boys- that doesn’t mean don’t have fun with it- giggle about your shinangins with your friends and have fun trying to figure things out, but I wouldn’t waste sleep on it. Trust me, truuuust me when I tell you, almost no relationships last at 16, they simply just don’t- so I wouldn’t waste to much energy. Don’t hesitate to have your fair share of fun though! But you’re young, take advantage of that
Ahh young love lol. You should be with a boy who treats you right. If he doesn’t know that he should ask you to be his girlfriend, imagine all the things he won’t know how to do in a relationship. Spare yourself the heartbreak and take it slow. You guys are young and have lots to learn about love. Love yourself most importantly and invest in yourself. You’ll look back in your 20s and laugh about the things you stressed about before ❤️🩹
It sounds like you’re at a place where you’re able to communicate clearly and openly and maybe he’s not.
I would attempt to have a very clear conversation with him about how you feel and your confusion about your relationship status and see what happens. It might be that he’s not used to talking openly and vulnerably with anyone, or that he’s scared of talking to you about it because he likes you so much, or that he’s neuro spicy and that kind of talk isn’t easy for him.
Regardless, you owe it to yourself to practice good relationship hygiene – communicate openly and clearly, don’t manipulate, and be respectful of him. And expect the same from your partner.
Gawsh you’re such a teen. Just make it official, you don’t need a parade for it