Found out my husband looks up women on social media platforms. He also is member of a local Facebook group for local singles and recently visited this page. He also asked for girls @ on Instagram.
He looks up leaked content of OF girls on a daily basis.
I am completely heartbroken and struggling with suicidal thoughts.
Broken because of my husband
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds incredibly painful. Have you considered talking to a therapist about your feelings and how to handle the situation?
do not let his failings as a human being be your end. these are his faults not yours and he should be the one responsible for them. To be honest it sounds like he might be the type of guy who would do this to any woman. I want you go to go back and look at some of the gorgeous and wonderful women that have been cheated on over the last thirty years. Its not you, its him.
What he did isn’t just disrespectful it’s a deep violation of trust that chips away at your self-worth. You deserve honesty and safety in love not a partner who treats your pain like a side effect of his habits.
Hey, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. If you’re ever feeling suicidal, you don’t have to face it alone. You can call 988 for help, they are free and avalible 24/7. You deserve better than being hurt over and over again. You deserve honesty and respect.
I’m sorry this is happening to you. Beyond everything – think about your own safety and needs, and seek psychotherapy!
What your husband does is a common issue. And I would assume he doesn’t even intend to hurt you – approach to the online world might be different between you and him. Make sure to understand yourself: perhaps being with a person like this is too much for you, and that would be valid. But then, try to understand him, talk it out, let him know your needs and change. If he understands the severity of the situation, seeks therapy, works hard – there could be a way to save the marriage, with your support. Never for his behavior that hurts you – but maybe for him as a person?
You deserve love that feels safe, not betrayal disguised as habit please don’t carry this pain alone; reach out to someone who can help you through it.
If you feel suicidal reach out to an organisation in your country. Many have 24/7 phone lines and they are trained to listen.
Seek a counsellor for longer term help.
Speak to a divorce lawyer about what divorce will look like for you. An initial chat will empower you and get you a few steps ahead.
Men like your husband rarely change this kind of behaviour. You either accept it or you leave him behind. His creepy behaviour is absolutely no reflection on you. You deserve better. 💐
First of all, please reach out to someone immediately about the suicidal thoughts. If you don’t have a close friend or relative to confide in or if they’re unreachable at the moment, you can find a local hotline. Please call them!
Secondly, he’s so not worth losing your life over. This is a reflection on him, not you. He’s a substandard human being. Utterly undeserving of your love and loyalty. You need therapy to get to a point where this doesn’t seem existential. I promise you it isn’t.
Please try to be kind to yourself. This too, shall pass.