I wanted to know what’s on your mind when a woman tells you that she sees you as a whole person and wants to be there for you through your highs and lows.
For context: I loved my guy friend for a long time. I confessed once but got rejected and life went on and we still keep in touch amid living 540km apart. We recently met and he started opening up about his personal life and the more I knew about him the more I wanted to take care of him and to make him feel heard and seen. I don’t want to show off as desperate hence I’m okay with him not really reciprocating what I feel as I’m clear with the fact that we’re friends. Lmk ur thoughts on this.
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I’ll let you know when I experience it.
Like being blessed by a very delicate but extremely beautiful flower that you need to water and expose to the sun but is also so easy to crush because I’m a constant disappointment.
My recurring nightmare is getting a pet, and then forgetting I have it, and it dies on me because I didn’t feed it.
I’ll let you know once I find out
I wonder how many of us will ever experience this
feeling genuinely loved is like finally putting down armor you didn’t even realize you were wearing.
it’s rare, and when it happens, you want to protect that feeling like a fragile flame.
I’ve never experienced it. And probably never will.
I feel like I’m home. Like I’m genuinely cared for in all respects and appreciated for what I give. Like I don’t have to put on a face or anything like that.
I wouldn’t know….
I would probably be a little disturbed, because she is almost certainly incorrect and has built up an image of me in her head that doesn’t have much basis on who I actually am. I’m not a very open person outside of places like here where I can easily abandon the account at any moment I wish, but it seems like there’s a type of person that sees a blank slate and can’t help but start painting faces on it.
I have made an effort to express myself more often, but the process of attempting to be open with people has historically been an extremely alienating one. The more effort I put into being understood, the more I seem to see how little anyone does get me.
Like someone has my back, and I always have support for anything and everything. That I can ask for help without it feeling like it’s a burden.
I adore my wife.
Its amazing. Been loved by a woman since my day one on Earth. My mom love is completely unexplicable.
Do women love men that aren’t their sons? I thought they pretend they love based on how tall, rich and large the men are.
Had that happen to me recently. Made me feel very special. Vulnerable yet safe at the same time. Never happened to me before. Unfortunately we couldn’t continue the relationship due to various reasons I won’t elaborate. But that feeling… I’m grateful to know what it feels like.
I feel loved, cherished, appreciated, and close.
I honestly can’t answer this because who knows what was going on in the heads of women who said they loved me? I maybe believed them at the time. But did they really love ME or some version of me they had conjured in their heads that I never lived up to?
In hindsight I’m thinking it was probably the latter for at least most of them. And I wonder if you are doing the same.
So I don’t know if I can answer how it made me feel because I’m not sure I’ve ever honestly experienced it.
But I will say be careful OP. If you have strong feelings for him and he does not share them, you could end up getting hurt. And honestly ask yourself if it is really him that you have feelings for, or an idea of him.
>I confessed once but got rejected and life went on and we still keep in touch amid living 540km apart. We recently met and he started opening up about his personal life and the more I knew about him the more I wanted to take care of him and to make him feel heard and seen. I don’t want to show off as desperate hence I’m okay with him not really reciprocating what I feel as I’m clear with the fact that we’re friends. Lmk ur thoughts on this.
You’re deluding yourself if you’re keeping the door open for this guy.
If a woman I’m not into confessed her love to me, I’d point out that it’s not love because love is a two-way street, and this thing she’s experiencing is only one sided.
Peace and at rest because I know that I have a person in my corner, and I don’t have to approach the adult decisions in my life alone, and relationships stop being a chore to find out if it’s going to work out
Having known plenty of people… I just assume that they are in love with having someone that makes them feel that way. It feels nice to dream for a bit…. But just keep in mind that this is only now. It won’t always be the most convenient for her to feel that way. Then she’ll rationalize her way into something else.
Just being honest. I feel it when it happens. It brings me joy. But let’s be real .. I’m not a sympathetic figure. She is. She is the cute and precious one. For her to be able to live life by her feels…. Someone else has to pay the price. So I enjoy it while it lasts and don’t do anything that’ll make me depend on it lasting.
Nothing, because I suspect it isn’t genuine.
Genuine love from a woman who continues to choose you despite of your shortcoming and weaknesses is different level. If you have this, don’t be stupid and be better. It’s a rare love especially that many woman have walls that prevents them from investing fully on a man. For me, first genuine love is top tier. If you’re the first man she has loved, man… it’s the purest love from a woman you can ever feel. Many says it’s like a woman’s devotion. I married her and she’s soon to be the mom of my kids. I feel like I won the lottery. These days, despite all the “options” we may think we have, the grass isn’t really greener on the other side. So if you see that your woman genuinely loves you, get your act together and not lose that woman. My grandpa said, “It will be your biggest regret if you lose a really good woman who genuinely loves you just because you were a stupid asshole.” Lolol He almost lost my grandma too but there weren’t dating apps that time so he didn’t get distracted and got her back lmao
Ohh as for your situation, he already rejected you. It’s best to choose yourself and respect yourself. Give that genuine love to yourself and to a man who appreciates you and able to reciprocate your feelings. He might be using you just for ego boost and validation but will never see you more than just a source of comfort. Stop wasting your time on him. You’ll be fine.
Don’t think I’ve ever actually felt genuinely loved by anyone
I used to feel such extreme importance and reverence upon receiving a women’s love when I was younger.
Now it’s hard for me to take it as seriously, because I find women’s love for men to generally be ephemeral and opportunistic.
This is just my perspective from my experience.