Men who stuck around for the kids with a woman they fell out of love with due to their toxicity/ narcissism / bad human being , how did it end up like and do you regret it.
Men who stuck around in a bad marriage for the kids, how did it go / how is it going ?
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Thats my father. Its going badly, and he does regret it.
If I learned anything from him, its to never allow myself to end up in his situation.
Kids can manage even without their parents being together
This is me.
It went very badly and 3 1/2 years later it carries on. I knew i was being abused but i had to stay around as long as possible because my children were young and i was the only one providing care. She has continued to use one of my children as a weapon and now i can’t see that child due to false allegations. Now the children are older it is my fault for her relationships with them being affected rather than them recognising her for the pos she is.
Life would be so much easier if she hust had the good grace to die.
NB. I don’t hate her as she had a pretty traumatic childhood but she exploited my compassion and is incapable of loving or being loved. She only feels comfortable when things are fucked because that’s what’s familiar. She’s quite pitiful under the bluster but too dangerous to ignore.
I held on for years married to an abusive alcoholic wife hoping to get the kids through school. We divorced half way through my youngest kids final year of school, and eldest kids last year of uni.
Three years and $40k in legal fees later we are now divorced and financially separated. Kids are all on track again and I’m getting remarried next year.
Not exactly the position you asked for but I remember as a kid that it was very obvious that My parents didnt love each other anymore. They rarely spent time in the same room, and if they did they either barely talked or were fighting. And I remember thinking that it would be better for everyone if they split. Because it was obvious neither was happy. So i guess what im saying is if you cant at least appear happy on the outside then it doesnt really help the Kids either. That was My experience at least growing up.