So to start this out I F 30, was watching corn 🌽 last night. While scrolling through I found a video and a couple photos of my ex and I. This ex and I haven’t been together for about 10 years. When we were together I found videos of him jacking himself off, and caught him trying to tape us once. I freaked out deleted it and told him to never do that again. So I bet you can imagine my shock when I saw those last night 10+ years later. It says they were posted 3 years and one month again (June 2022). Why did he keep them all this time? Why did he post them 7 years after the fact? He’s been dating my best friend for the last 6 years I believe. Idk what to do. My best friend and him have two kids and really good jobs (working at the same place). How do I talk to her or him about this? Could I or Should I try to look into legal help? I’m so mad, upset, I feel so betrayed. I just don’t know if there’s ANYTHING I can do about it with the video being so old and with it being posted 3 years ago. If he can get in legal trouble it puts my friend in a bad spot too, she wouldn’t be able to afford the life they built on their own, workplace would probably be awkward if other people found out. I would hope she would be mad at him, but what if she’s mad at me?
What would you guys do in this scenario? What would you do if you were the best friend? Should I just forget about it?
I’m so lost trying to think of all this, please help.
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Look into legal help. I think with legal help; you can tell him to take it down as you did not consent to these video being taken AND posted in the first place. LAWYER UP!
Idk the statute of limitations when it comes to videos like this.
> corn 🌽
What? Is that a way to say porn, why?
Yeah take some official help or talk to someone from cyber security if you have contacts
I would definitely file a police report for revenge porn. (I don’t think the clock starts ticking until you’ve discovered it)
I would talk to my friend first though, because it’s highly likely she is also posted somewhere as well as other former lovers. No way this is a one off.
You don’t need to worry about if she’ll get mad at you, focus on yourself. Get in contact with the police, I personally would call them up or a sit down chat after filing with the cops and record the confrontation. Not at all needed but I would do that just bc I like confrontation.
Cops first though!
This has nothing to do with his wife. Do what you would do if he was married to someone you don’t know.Â
Maybe it may not be him that did it. It could be a friend he had previously shared those videos with that posted it now. It’s very strange he would post those videos knowing full well he has a family now
Yeah, that’s illegal most places – to record without consent and to post without consent. Go through legal means and and the friend will know too, you don’t have to tell her. You’re taking care of yourself, those are your videos out there and it’s nothing to do with her, at all. Unless she makes it about her.
Wow thats illegal. Time to ruin his life lawfully. Revenge porn is considered sexual harassment.
You didn’t consent and you didn’t force him to post. These were his actions. Imagine if you were with him, she was the ex, and the reverse situation occurred. How would she respond? Use that question when you confront her
Sue him civilly and get some of that good job money.
Hire a lawyer before going to the police, then speak to your friend about it. Her reaction will show whether, you need to worry about her still being your friend. I wouldn’t speak to your friend till you have your ducks in a row because odds are she will try to protect her husband and try to talk you out of seeking legal advice. Those videos can’t affect you the rest of your life and jobs you may want in the future.
Your friend needs to know the creep she had kids with.
He broke the law by secretly recording you and then posting that for his own sick reasons.
Actions have consequences.
You can pursue legal action (most advisable)
Or confront him with your friend present. Absolutely rip into him for every sleazy thing he’s ever done and finish with the videos. Show your friend the proof. Demand he take them down and delete everything or else you will pursue legal action. Then you and your friend can decide on consequences for him on your own.
I’d first make sure he posted them, hackers legit go after these types of things
Tell your friend, pics and vids of her could be out there