Me and my girlfriend have been going out for over 6 months now, and at first the relationship was all I could ever dream of. It was so exciting to see her and talk to her everyday and our personalties both just bounced off each other.
But somewhere midway through 5 months of being together she started being more rude to me, and just overall dry. At first I thought it was just gonna pass over and/or it was just a phase or something that she was going through. But after a few weeks it’s kinda gotten worse.
She sometimes is just super mean when I try and talk to her (out of no where too, she’ll just be super rude). Also, on text she’ll just respond with these dry messages that it’s almost impossible to respond to when I am trying to talk to her. She even stopped wearing the necklace I got her, and the last time I was in her room it was just thrown down on her desk and not neatly placed with her other jewellery like she always does (not that it means much because it is just a necklace but it feels like that because of the timing)
I’m so confused because then randomly for a day we’ll have a good conversation and she’ll seem all happy again with me talking to her (in real life and on messages). But even then I’ve found it more difficult to try and have a conversation with her nowadays when we used to be able to do it so effortlessly.
It just feels like I’m waking up everyday thinking if she’s gonna be rude today and act weird, or is she’s at least acknowledge me. I’m trying not to be too needy or over the top with her but I’m really confused and I don’t want to sound like a dick and just ask her “What’s wrong with you lately?”.
Does anyone know what to do, I’m so lost and I really love her, I don’t want this relationship to go down the drain.
TL;DR, Girlfriend of 6 months is rude and dry to me now and only seems happy with me like two times a week. I don’t know what to do.
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You’re both young. She could be taking her anger out on you, maybe she had a bad day or she’s secretly mad at you for something. It’s very common that people take their anger out on those they’re most close to.
I would bring it up to her next time it happens. Point out you notice a shift and ask how she’s feeling. If it continues where she won’t say anything but being with her still feels bad, then end it. It’s not your chore to keep up with her emotions if she won’t confide in you.
Say, “I’ve noticed a change in your behavior lately, and I’m trying to figure out if I did something or you’re going through something?”