Urgently I need help …I m crying 😭

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I am a 19F will be 20 soon
I was in a 5 year long distance relationship with boyfriend
He was the sweetest guy ever…he used to do things that used to make me feel so special
Like keeping my picture in his wallet
Having his entire gallery dedicated to me
Counting the no. of times i have said I love you to him (crossed 2000)
Like look at his efforts… nd much more

But then we met for the 3rd time … which was in FEBRUARY had great time …tbh we met after 3 years…we both were completely loyal till then
Then last week ie in JULY I find out he’s cheating on me since APRIL….
We started dating in 2019 December
He stayed fucking loyal till 2025 and after 5 years he did this…!!

I FOUND OUT EVERYTHING THAT I KNOW ABOUT THIS…he didn’t tell me any other information other than what I found out.
He installed bumble , brought premium subscription, went to meet a girl ,kissed her.
Now he’s asking me for forgiveness…if I even have 1% hope for him he will dedicate his life to me . And remembering about how he treated me in his past…yeah based of texts only coz we were in long distance…I feel like I should give him a chance…

I know this sounds so stupid..I m so young and at such a vulnerable state … I have no idea what to do …
Please tell me do guys ever change after being loyal for this long then cheating for a short duration and then begging for forgiveness…will they ever be the same again…

Please read this everyone…I really need a lot of support to carry myself through what I am going on

TL;DR long term relationship breakup advice
Tough situation for a young girl

Comments

  1. throwaway2901750 Avatar

    Im sorry you’re facing this.

    Not all men are like that.

    Don’t go back to this person. Cut them out and try to meet people around you.

    Honestly, this is the risk in not meeting someone for 3 years. You don’t know the person, even though you are talking online.

    I think you need to talk to your friends and family. Lean on them and talk time to heal.

  2. chemicalhearts91 Avatar

    I’m in 10yo relationship and want to get out of it. I’m no one to give advice

  3. Wise_Cantaloupe2635 Avatar

    Nope, honey. I’m honestly sorry to break this devastating news to you! But once a cheat, always a cheat. IMO.

    Source: My personal experience

    But I’m just the first commenter… Others could have different points of view. You’re so young and deserve much better. I hope you’ll listen to smart people. Best of luck to you💔

  4. MossValley Avatar

    Take some time to yourself. At least three months before you make any decisions.

    Sorry this happened to you.

  5. Temporary-Wealth-575 Avatar

    If you choose to stay with him things will never be the same. He’ll never have your full trust again and I personally wouldn’t want that relationship. I’d say move on. Sorry you’re going through this 💚

  6. ziasol Avatar

    I know it sucks. It’s the worst feeling ever. Please just save yourself and leave. It sucks breaking away from something you invested so much time and heart in and you’re so attached. But there’s other people out there who’d never do you that dirty and will fr love you. If you do choose to stay which I’m rlly hoping you won’t, just know you might be less trustful of the things he says and does. take time to be upset and think about the decision you wanna make