is it weird for a girl to be the older one in a relationship? i (23f) am interested in someone, and he (20m) likes me back! only thing is that he’s 3 years younger than i am. luckily it doesn’t seem to bother him at all, as he’s the one who had feelings first. i want to make sure that’s not too big of an age difference, i’m autistic and my therapists/psychiatrist have agreed that mentally i’m not as developed (can’t think of a better word) as people my age, so i’m not sure if that would make any difference. i don’t want it to be weird to anyone or be judged a lot for it, i’m just not sure how everyone else would perceive it. so sorry if this is a dumb post but i have a habit of overthinking everything, and in the past i’ve always had good luck on reddit! 🙂
tl;dr, i’m overthinking a three year age difference (23f) (20m) is that too big?
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3 years is not a big deal at all. Some couples have ten year age gaps. Plenty of women are older than who they’re dating as well.
I’m 23 and my bf is 21. I’m also AuDHD . If you’re worried about this being ethically weird, I don’t think it is. You’ve both been adults for a while now. I’m also not sure if it’s fair for your therapist to imply or say that you’re not as mentally developed. I may be wrong but it doesn’t sit right with me regardless xx
The healthiest relationship I was ever in was with a woman 5 years older than me
Not weird at all! For me personally (20f), my range is 19 to 23, anyone out of that I’d feel weird about. Obviously it depends on the circumstances of meeting too, like if a 23 year old was my boss or in a position of power over me than i wouldnt be ok with dating them. If youre both interested, then go for it! I’m also an overthinker so i get your concerns, but i totally dont think anyone will percieve it weird or judge you for it. Good luck! Have fun! Be safe!