Disclaimer: I am very pro LGBTQ+ community
A few days ago my girlfriend and I flew to Nashville for 4th of July weekend. For context
my girlfriend is a 10/10 bombshell while I occasionally get approached and hit on by women and gay men so we’re used to it as we are now in our late 20s
We were in one of those honky-tonks dancing for hours until 2am until we were ready to leave but I went to use the restroom while she waits for me. When I came out she was approached by 2 women in their early 20s and chatted with her. Both of them were pretty, one of them had dark hair while the other was blonde. The dark haired one told my gf she recently came out of the closet and is celebrating by partying with the blonde friend. My GF congratulated her and chatted with them more as she’s also pro LGBTQ community. I stood a few feet away from them to let them chat until she signals for us to leave to our hotel.
The dark haired girl then grabs my GF arms and asks to make out and go somewhere else with her. My GF refused and tells her that she’s with me and we’re leaving but she would not let go of my GF’s arms. This went on for 5 mins trying to convince my gf to go home with her until the blonde friend had to pull her arms away to let my gf go.
I was there standing lost on what to do as my gf became more uncomfortable. If that was a man I’d get very physical but it was a petite drunk lesbian woman. What would you guys have done in this situation?
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Equal rights, equal fights
Wouldve walked in there and been like mung daal ‘Helloooo ladiesssssss’
I bet you wouldn’t have gotten ‘very physical’ if it was a man. TLDR you let a drunk person sexually assault your significant other.
I’ve always found driving headbutts to be effective – have to commit 100% though.
No one touches me or mine, unless they want their hand crushed
Treat her the same way you would a man.
It’s 2025. Equal rights, equal lefts.
Remove her hand from gf and walk away. At that point, nothing more needed saying in your guys’ part.
Break her grip on your gf and threaten to spray her with a water hose like the horny animal she is
>The dark haired girl then grabs my GF arms and asks to make out and go somewhere else with her. My GF refused and tells her that she’s with me and we’re leaving but she would not let go of my GF’s arms. This went on for 5 mins trying to convince my gf to go home with her until the blonde friend had to pull her arms away to let my gf go.
It sounds like the conflict resolved itself.
Why do you think you need to step in and do something?
The real question is why did your gf just stand there and take it and not just walk away with you?
Yeah harassment is harassment wherever. Just don’t be the first to throw the first punch, but that’s just good advice
I would have gone and talked to her and removed her hand. Certainly wouldn’t have stayed a few feet away for 5 minutes. Even if she hadn’t grabbed her, I would have wanted to know what was going on.
I don’t see what the problem is. Your gf is a capable adult isn’t she? Isn’t she capable of telling a petite drunk lesbian woman to fuck off?
Grab her by the pu**y.
-Someone, probably
Give her the ole’ one-two buckle my shoe.
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Same thing I would’ve done with a man, get between them and my gf, break their contact, and stare them dead in the eyes as I give them one warning to back off.
Everyone gets one warning with me; except in extreme situations. After that whatever happens happens.
Petite physical 😀 Minimal show of force, you don’t even need to touch her, just step in next to her face and gauge the reaction, proceed from there as needed.
I would have been like “Heyyy ladiessss, we are a package deal!” jk, give her a good shouting at and treat her just like you would any man
“Hey babe, are you ready to go? Yes?”
Stand between them, firmly remove her hand, and leave without another word. No scene necessary, just take control of the situation as soon as your girl looks uncomfortable, which should have been much sooner than 5 minutes of inappropriate touching.
Its tricky.
One option is to walk over, be all chatty, calm and friendly. Ask dark haired girl how they are, smile at them, hold their arm, compliment them; basically you are trying to break the spell so to speak and then calmly but firmly walk away with your GF.
Other option is to walk straight over and loudly firmly grab your partner, snog them, smile sweetly and walk away.
Last option is to storm over and tell dark haird girl to back the fuck off. GF is taken and you dont appreciate her approach.
All of the above require you to step outside your comfort zone. But sometimes we all need to do that to help, support and protect the person we love.
It can be scary, but also invigourating when you realise people back down very quickly when faced with strong confifent people who look like they don’t take shit (even if you are faking it!)
Patience cost you five minutes.
I would have grabbed my girlfriend’s hand and (if physically possible) would have led her away. If this was not possible, I would have immediately called security. Remember that if you physically attempted to remove the lady clinging to your girlfriend, you could lay yourself open to charges of assault, even with other “witnesses” providing less than honest testimony. Most people will be wondering why your girlfriend was not far more assertive?
Wow she sounds like a real predator which is pretty common for that community, no means no regardless if it’s coming from a woman or man.
I’ve had lesbian friends that literally have told me “I’m going to fuck that lady tonight one way or another” or “I bet you I can convert her”.
You let your girlfriend deal with it if you judge she isn’t in physical danger. If she is, you step in regardless of the sex of the person posing the threat. HOWEVER first you slide up there before any of it goes south and try to ingratiate yourself with the other women in the hopes of negotiating a group event.
She was holding her arms and preventing your gf from leaving for 5 minutes? And you say you were right there, what, trying to convince your gf to leave…? That’s what the snag was? 👀
You should learn martial arts with her! It’s fun, active, and will prevent stuff like this from happening again!
Married, if my wife show discomfort in stepping in. I don’t care if you’re a guy, girl, kid, senior citizen, you mess with my wife until she’s uncomfortable I’m about to be in your way.
Sounds like could be solved with dialogue. “hey, that’s not cool. That’s harassment, you should let go of her”.
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Same way I’d handle a man harassing my girlfriend. I’d walk up and say something like “alright babe, ready to go?” If the other person didn’t let go immediately, I’d give them a polite yet firm look and say “excuse me, it’s time for us to go.”
After that, it’s ask, tell, make. “Please remove your hand so we can go.” A wave to security, if they’re there. “Last chance. Let her go.” After that, I won’t be communicating with words. Either security does their thing or I do mine.
Some of those steps may be skipped depending on where the other person’s hand is. Touch her in an area normally covered by underwear and they’ll be touching the inside of a cast for a few weeks.
Get physically in between them if I can to stop anyone getting hurt. Call a bouncer.
Your propensity for violence is your issue, not the pushy drunk woman’s.
I wait for my fiancee to insult the girl out of the bar. I’d only intervene if the girl was big and aggressive enough that I felt my fiancee’s safety was at risk.
You get between them and tell her to back off.
Next time get your phone out and record. Then get her to stop committing assault against your gf. If the gal cries rape or makes a false report, you have evidence backing you up.
That would be broken fingers for the person who wouldn’t let go
Piss on her Subaru while holding eye contact.
Sounds like a normal 2am drunk idiot.
I would call over a bouncer and tell them my gf is being harassed
I feel like the right way to non-violently deal with a man doing this is to make him the center of attention by signaling everyone that a sexual assault is happening, asking employees to call security and all.
Maybe try this. Shitty situation indeed.
Replace lesbian with man. What would you dk if a guy did this to your gf?
Well I carry a gun so it takes a very silly and or determined person to try that, although I guess I’d be more expecting of it in this situation
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Should be the same treatment as a man harassing your gf really, it’s just as bad, sometimes even worse as they think they can get more aggressive being the same sex…
Grabbed her hands and removed them tightly.
Smart thing to do is probably alert the bouncer. If no bouncer is there and you can’t alert other staff, maybe just slowly insert yourself into the situation in a non-threatening but assertive way. Don’t initiate physical contact with this woman like others are saying unless she starts attacking you or your girlfriend.
You essentially want to avoid a situation where you scare the woman, she screams for help, and you get rushed by the bouncers / other patrons in the bar. Even if she was in the wrong, unless you’re interested in potentially getting your ass kicked by a bunch of other guys in the vicinity, that’s what I would recommend.
Identify as a woman.
Firm hand on the gripping forearm, “excuse me, you’re making my girlfriend uncomfortable, could you please leave her alone?”
Talk to the friend “Hey, I know your friend is just drunk but could you please tell her to stop harassing my Gf before I do?”
Walk up and ask if you can join in cos that’s your girl and you want to celebrate with them too
If it causes my gf obvious discomfort I’m stepping in. There are several options to do that and it depends on how aggressive they are.
You can slip in next to your girl, put your arm around her and tell them nicely to let go. Usually helps with ppl who are beyond drunk but not aggressive.
You could step between them and sternly tell them to let go of her, because it causes obvious discomfort.
You could just walk up, grab their wrist and tell them “let go, now!”
Or you do the smash and grab. If you need to get your gf released from their grip instantly, you smash their face and grab your gf and book it. Only do that if it’s actually necessary, like your gf is in some kind of danger from them.
Creepily suggest a reverse gangbang, continue being creepy until they leave in disgust.
Either that or lock the doors and set the building on fire, when the smoke hits them she will let go of your gfs arm. Works best if the offending lesbians are substantially taller than your GF, this is why I don’t date over 4’8”, the short ones are spared from the smoke the longest
Step forward and firmly tell her to let go and fuck off, or tell the friend remove her before I do.
her being gay and you being LGBT supporters have nothing to do with the situation, it’s just a person grabbing your girlfriend and not letting her go.
No need to suplex her into a table but definitely don’t have to be overly nice just because she’s a gay woman.
Bar owner here. The answer is always “go ask the staff for help.”. If this woman was being handsy with your wife, she’ll be handsy with others — they’ll want her gone.
Don’t put your hands on anyone in a bar, especially not some petite woman; if a fight breaks out, the staff is either getting a bouncer to throw everyone out or calling the cops. If it’s two drunk people in a dispute, the bouncer isn’t going to listen to the big guy to say he had no choice but to get physical with the woman half his size, he’s most likely going to be extra rough with throwing the guy out.
Be smart, be cool-headed, and trust your wife. There’s no way she was going off with this woman, and she’d have been capable of fending off further unwanted advances in the minute it would take to alert staff to a situation. Don’t ruin your night and/or life because you felt the need to act macho.
What was your girlfriend’s view of it? I assume you talked afterwards. Was she glad you let her handle it or would she have preferred you had stepped in?
Personally, I would’ve just gone up to my GF and said “let’s go” and then go. If anything else happens beyond us leaving then deal with what happens as it happens.
You remove her hands from your GF and leave the bar. You are not obligated to be chivalrous with an aggressive drunk regardless of her sexuallity. If the bouncer isn’t doing their job, then protect your GF. A drunken ass is just a drunken ass.
You said it yourself, she grabbed your girl and wouldn’t let go. You have every right to remove her hand. If she does something stupid that requires equal amounts of force, that’s on her dumb ass.
My gf is entirely capable of handling herself and doesn’t need me to “save” her in a situation like that. I’d ask her if she’s okay and if she asked for help, then I’d step in and tell them to back off. Otherwise, I know she’d want to have the chance to defend herself.
I think the best way would be something like “Hey honey, what’s going on?”
Anyone who harasses my girl friend, gets the bare knuckle treatment. I dont care if they’re a man, woman, child, animal, Ai or E.T they’ll all get the same treatment.
I’ve already taught my partner’s Father that disrespecting my partner doesn’t happen not on my watch.
Also, I wouldn’t be giving them 5 minutes to grab my partner, 5 seconds and they’ll be out cold.
If she wants to be a man she can get treated like one
Equal rights, equal lefts. 🥊🥊🥊🥊
nothing? let your girlfriend deal with it. if your girlfriend asks for help then help. same thing you should do with a guy. don’t be all macho and piss all over your girlfriend claiming her if that’s what you’re asking.
You don’t get physical with anyone except to free yourself from their grasp.
Exactly what you did. Standby and let the situation either resolve itself or intervene should things escalate to violence.
Look forget the high energy machismo ideology that you got to fight or you’re weak in those moments. Your GF handled herself and the situation resolved. What would have happened if you intervened? Would it have helped the situation at all?
As far as I’m concerned you showed restraint where others wouldn’t. You showed calm in a tense situation. You did everything right in this situation period. Props dude. Take that W and gas up your GF by reminding her she kept her cool. Remind her that wow that was a messed up situation and laugh it off as exactly that. A messed up situation.
Backhand that hoe, pimp
Ask my SO if she’d like me to help her remove herself from the situation.
if someone has a hold of my gf for 5 minutes and won’t let go they’re getting blasted. be serious
As a lesbian this is not ok, women can also be perpetrators of sexual violence and u can be pro gay and not pro harassment
“If you wanna eat her pussy you’re gonna do it with my dick up your ass. Your move toots”
That’s basically a trap no matter what you do. You have to let the girl handle herself or if it’s out of control call the security to do their job.
Ask if you can watch?
You do the same thing as if a guy did it. Tell them to stop, put yourself between them and your partner, remove their hand from your partner, and tell them to back off. If they don’t go get a member of the staff and have them bounced from the bar. No need to escalate things beyond that. You tell the staff and they will handle it.
Doesn’t matter what the person looks like or who they want to fuck. You don’t lay hands on another person without consent and you definitely never try to stop someone from leaving. That shit isn’t okay anywhere.
Looks like you need to figure out how to solve problems without violence. It is a good skill to have when you live in civilization.
Treat her like the man she wants to be
Throw cold water on her.
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I would have stumbled and spilled a beer all over the dark-haired girl. “Whooops! Are you okay? Lost my footing there, not sure if I tripped over something or what, or maybe the floor’s wet. We should tell the bartender so they can get over here with a mop.”
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Kick her clam inside out.
I’ve seen a few of these situations. And while I don’t want to hit a girl, I’m also not gonna just sit there. Usually I stay with words, if I need to grab that ladies hands. I’ve taken a head butt it two, but nothing that really hurt, and it meant that I didn’t have to hit a girl.
You don’t need to punch the woman, but you could relocate her away from your girlfriend. You would be defending someone from assault. Hard for me to see how you get in trouble for that.
You just stood there tf? Regardless of gender if anyone has a hold onthe woman you’re with and they’re uncomfortable, ask them to remove their hands or they’ll be removed.
turn her hetero
So this lesbian (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) basically publicly sexually assaults (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) my girlfriend and I’m (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) wondering if it’s OK to be (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) angry about that or if (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) people would consider me (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) homophobic, because that would (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) be the worst thing I could possibly (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) be accused of, behind being called racist of course, it’s a darn (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) good job she wasn’t also black. (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) Is this what western (I AM VERY PRO LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY) society has come to? Oh by the way, in case anyone gets any ideas I would just like to say I am very pro LGBTQ+ community, please don’t doxx me and get me fired.
Point behind her. “Is that the lesbian soccer player, Megan Rapino?” When she turns, rip her hand off your gf and make like the wind.
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Missed an opportunity, 4D chess would have been you having a foursome with 3 hot women
Given the events described, ‘make sure my gf is okay’ and “maybe owe her something because five minutes is a long time, but also that’s gold-medal ‘I trust my gf’ territory”.