kinda self explanatory. my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 and a half years now, and i can be sort of clingy. we have the occasional disagreement or argument but nothing serious, and no suspicion of cheating or lost trust or anything like that. his friends planned this vacation sometime in april and while i was upset he’d be gone for a week several states away at the beach, he told me it was just him and his friends and i wouldn’t have a good time hanging around a bunch of guys i don’t really know. fast forward to a week ago, i learn that not only are his friends going, but all their girlfriends as well (also who i don’t know very well)–so i’m the only one not coming. when i learned this, i was upset but he said that i would be too shy to really enjoy myself and he wants to hangout with his friends too, not just me. he’s always telling me i should try to make more friends, but i feel this would’ve been a good opportunity to do so. the girls are staying with their boyfriends in one airbnb, and my boyfriend and his single friends are staying in a different one. i’m so upset that it’s literally only me not going, and that while he’s gonna be partying and drinking with all his friends and a bunch of girls in bikinis i’m stuck at home working and doing online school with a UTI. i’m worried he’s gonna get hurt in some way (they will be fishing, boating, and shooting at a range, not to mention everyone’s gonna drink a ton apparently), and while i trust my boyfriend, i can’t help but be scared he’s gonna be tempted or something while i’m not around, especially because i’ve had trouble helping him finish recently. it definitely doesn’t help that i asked to call and chat when i got off work, and we were texting all day, but the second i get off work he’s too tired from the drive and the alcohol. he reassures me that next week, we will have plenty of time since he’s not working, and we have a 3-day long vacation next month that’s just the 2 of us.
is it just my anxiety? do i have reason to be upset or am i just jealous? are there any recommendations to get over myself?
TL;DR- i’m hurt my boyfriend’s on a week-long vacation with all his friends and their girlfriends, without any invitation
EDIT: well, i called him, and brought up a few points. he didn’t invite me because it is completely an all-guys trip. turns out his friends are not bringing their girlfriends, it’s a separate friend group he’s not a part of, and the boy-girl group are completely separate from the trip, different house and activities and all. it apparently is only like 2 people in common who are friends, from group 1 and 2. i guess i was so wrapped up in my head i didn’t think that maybe he truly just wants one-on-one time with his friends.
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Why haven’t you hung out with his friends before this? Is he keeping you from them/ them from you?
Girl he doesn’t care about u .. who doesn’t take their gf to a trip like this . Chances are he may be trying to dump you soon . When he dumps you heal your anxiety with professionals before you start dating again . If he doesn’t dump you , why are you with him?
that’s extremely disrespectful of him and you need to talk to him asap and tell his ass to get back home because that is wildddddd
I would be hurt by this. Also, I don’t understand how you have been with him for 2 years and don’t know his friend? Seems like he wants to live the single life.
It’s a high possibility even though he loves you he is sort of embarrassed to meet u with his friends, again most probably the reason being how shy you get with others? Have an open and honest convo with him 🙂
He still should have asked if you would be comfortable to go, instead of making that choice for you. It sounds like he wants to let loose and not have to cater to your shyness with his buddies.
If you feel this way just leave