To give context me and my ex abruptly broke up 3 years ago after a few months of dating and several months being good friends. She understood me really well. We kind of stayed in touch for a while with maybe monthly text convos and bi-annual long calls with life updates but I fully cut contact when I started talking with my current gf and blocked her on everything
I don’t miss my ex in a romantic way. I don’t have any feelings for her anymore and would never get back with her or get involved with her. But recently during the 4th of july I remembered a pleasant memory with her and I can’t seem to shake her off my mind. I think it’s also partially because i am realizing how much of my life I blocked out during the period I was with her. I don’t know what it is about her I miss. I don’t think my feelings for her interfere with my feelings for my girlfriend. But I also know i still care about my ex in some way or another. I don’t want her back in my life and the only reason I would ever talk to her again is if I wanted closure for our breakup but I honestly think that wouldn’t help me at all. I also do think I am over the relationship but at the same time this has me questioning everything because why would I even miss her??
I want to know what you think I and my girlfriend should do. She doesn’t know about this post but i will take into consideration everything
TL;DR, I miss my ex but I don’t want her back in my life and I don’t want to miss her and I love my girlfriend with all my heart
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I’d say sit through the feelings with yourself, process them and understand why they feel this way, then eventually move on. We all go through change, whether we like it or not. Don’t let your girlfriend down.