I’m 30 and have not experienced my first kiss. I have tried and failed romantically all my life and the longer it goes, the worse it feels. I’ve had people I’m close with tell me everyone goes at their own pace but I know I’m an outlier. I want to see what other people have experienced in regards to first kisses
How old were you the first time you kissed a girl and what was it like? What lead up to it?
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My first real kiss? Not a kiss I got from being chased on the playground?
I was 21 and it was at the end of a date. I have no game, am socially awkward and too young to know to never take a woman’s advice on women. So, following a lady friends advice, I asked her if I could kiss her. She said yes and there we have it. No making out just a semi long held kiss.
She was walking up the stairs ahead of me, stopped and turned around, then threw a lip lock on me that made my knees weak.
I mean technically first kiss was at like 5.. but first proper kiss, 13/14? Was fine. Neither of us knew what we were doing really, but figured it out.
12 yo. It happened during lunch in middle school and it was fucking magical.
As to what lead up to it, well, just hanging out together. At some point all our friends had left, so we were alone since I stayed around to help clean up the place and that’s it. Insert some teenage awkwardness and you get the picture.
I met her on OkCupid before it got terrible, we went on a date, and then we watched American Pie on her bed, and the kiss was when I finally got the hint that I was going to stop being a virgin that night.
Playing Spin the Bottle in 7th Grade. The kisses were nice enough.
Like, second grade.
Got a detention.
Worth it.
Somewhere in my youth, before high school.
I was very young, younger than 10 years old I think. I was hanging out with a random girl (we were on family trip and I had just met her at a place we were camping) that was couple years older than me and we went on this hill when it became dark outside and she kissed me. After a moment I ended up pushing her away cuz I got really scared my parents will find out and get angry (had really strict parents) but can’t say I didn’t like it lol. Kind of ironic how early it happened and that the girl initiated it while now as an adult I can’t seem to be able to attract anyone.
I was like 7 and under the air hockey table at daycare. She said “let’s do something I saw my parents do” and we crawled under that fucking table and she climbed on top of me and kissed me full on the mouth. Core memory
7th grade, my summer camp girlfriend.
We were walking back to the bunks and reached the point in the path where it split off between the boys and girls sections. She asked me to kiss her and I went to give her a kiss on the cheek, but at the last second she turned her head and pulled me into a full on french kiss.
10/10, her hair smelled like strawberries
She and I are actually still friends many decades later. It’s never going to stop being quietly funny to me that she married a guy with my same name.
The first time tongue got involved was when I was 15 and on summer vacation. She was 15 as well and our families were renting cottages that were beside each other. On the second evening after we met, we were sitting on a bench beside the lake. We talked for awhile, nervously looked at each other, and kissed. By the end of the evening, we were swapping spit like there was no tomorrow.
I was 14, she was also 14, and let me tell you she was a full-grown WOMAN. I’m being dead serious when I say she could have been a Playboy Playmate when she turned 18 – she was absolutely gorgeous. We made out for what felt like an eternity, she grabbed my hand and took me into her bedroom. She wanted to go all the way but, honestly, I chickened out and made some excuse that I had to leave.
6th grade old, hanging out with my highscool old cousin and his friends playing this game where person x closes their eyes and the rest take turns relaying a lighter till x says stop and then orders whoever had the lighter…I was told to kiss she was gentle that’s also when I started hitting clubs, drinking started with wine hated it so was my last wine and smoking weed.
Real kiss? 15. It was A LOT of making out. Didn’t get any further than that though. We dated for a hot minute then I broke it off.
17 – Was in high school in the all county band for regular and jazz. Made friends with a girl from a different town. Hung out all weekend on breaks from practice. After the performance she invited me over with some friends to watch Sin City. We made out the entire movie. Was fun. Sloppy. But fun.
12th bday. It was at my party, she talked about it with her friends the entire week leading up to the party, it was my gift. Still friends with her on social media but she lives on another continent now.
30 and still yet to experience that
14/15 I refuse to remember it 😂 but the 1st kisses I actually like to remember are from my 20s.
13 and it was at a hangout where one of my older brothers friends said I’d never been kissed. This SUPER cute mixed girl decided it was on her to give me my first kiss.
I had a few kisses in grade school, first kiss to a girlfriend I was 8 on the school yard, first make out at 12
I haven’t had my first kiss either and I’m 28, so I feel you
12 yo. It happened after lunch as soon as we went to computer class. I don’t even remember how it lead up to this, I wasn’t even attracted to the girl. We sat next to each other and she leaned in we kissed it felt wet & weird , she wore sticky lip gloss to
10ish…with my best friend’s older sister. It was her idea. She asked and I immediately said yes. We were on the school playground so we hid under some kind of tunnel to kiss. I was in instant heaven & it continued for days. Similar situation the next summer. This time I asked but she said no. My first of many such disappointments lol
I’m approaching 40. I’m bad at relationships and therefore haven’t gotten far enough to date and kiss anyone. I wish I was lying.
OP – off topic but I looked at your post history. Hope you’re doing slightly better.
Try to remember, this stuff really doesn’t matter in end. Yes Physical touch Is important from a personal feel good POV, but the societal emphasis of it is not.
You never posted a photo so I have no idea what you look like but a few ideas:
4 in preschool. What was it like? More ask my parents they were confronted.
Like in middle school playing truth or dare on the school bus lol
I kind of grouped my bases. I was 15 (but young for my grade, it was the summer going into junior year). First time I kissed a girl was the same time I fingered one. Just kind of happened at a big slumber party.
Then I did the same thing 3ish weeks later and grouped 3rd base and having sex. That was with someone else.
It was an eventful August.
I was in grade 3. We were in the bushes at recess. Her name was Pam. I’ll never forget! I think the leadup was something like “I saw mom and dad do this” and then she kissed me.
5 on the playground during recess lmao.
17 inside a church, it was kinda a youth gathering. She and i were kinda flirting with each other, I lay besides her while she was sitting then all of a sudden she immediately bent down and kissed me. How did it feel? It felt illegal to do it in church and since others were also there… But here’s the catch I had my first bj and fingering session on that same church 🙏😭
I was 10 or 11, I think (we were the same age). We were watching Cars in the movie theater, and she pulled my face to hers and kissed me. It was a proper makeout, too, tongue and everything.
Maybe 16? It wasn’t a kiss so much as a peck on the cheek, a girl at a party I was at was trying to kiss somebody on a dare (she kept saying “dare me to kiss him”) someone did and I wound up being the recipient, it was awkward but not unpleasant, I’m 31 and I haven’t been kissed since so take it with a grain of salt (I’ve had sex but wasn’t kissed during), I acknowledge that I’ve had a strange sex life lol
I was 14, I went to a party with this girl who I liked. We ended up sneaking off and sitting under her deck, and we kissed. It was pretty incredible, still remember it 36 years later. I wanted more after that, but it quickly fell apart with her.
Are you like severely autistic or are there any other factors that are relevant to this?
I was 33. The leadup is that we met on Bumble and chatted for a few days, then I asked her out. We went to an art hop, then to a bar that had a band playing. She didn’t want to stick around there and strongly suggested going to my house, but I begged off, and we went to a pool hall nearby (that was actually like 60 seconds from my house I realized later). On the way there she was talking up her pool game, but I wound up doing much better than her, and she was way into it. At one point she said “I would let you bang me right here and now on this pool table.” We sat down on a couch next to the wall and talked for a bit. After some time I took her back to her car, and we kissed in the car, and then by my trunk as she took out something she’d bought at the art hop.
What was it like? Awkward and uncomfortable. I didn’t enjoy it. I broke things off with her after she got home, and I soon tried to start seeing a therapist to work through things. A couple months later I took up ballroom dancing in an attempt to help me deal with my discomfort around close contact with women. I’ve been on a few more dates with other women but nowhere close to kissing, and to be honest I’m not sure if I’ll get there. But the future is unwritten.
I was 7 and the ‘dark haired boy’ of the neighborhood, she was 6 and the cutest little blonde girl. First she asked me to kiss her, then she kissed me, then she showed me hers and asked to see mine and cue the first of many basis anatomy lessons.
It was dude.
Met at a bar when I was 19… thought he was hot and asked him to hang out with a few of us afterwards, when we went back to one of my friend’s places. Wasn’t really sure if he was into dudes or not… but thought and was hoping he might be.
We ended up alone together for a few minutes and it just kinda happened lol.
I don’t remember my ages, but pretty young.
My 1st kiss was just because some girl asked. Which I don’t understand because I also believed in cooties at the time.
Making out was before the age of 12, though. Was definitely too much me back then. Yes, this story does involve an older girl.
Underwater pool kiss age 9.
Started full on spit swappin by like 12 years old. Pretty much expert level makeout artist by 15.
Think we were like 6 n 7. My first crush.
In my early 30s, unfortunately I too have never kissed a girl. Kissed a bunch of guys tho.
I was barely 18 years old and my cousin’s drunk wife gave me a big wet smooshy kiss during a new years party. It lasted like 3-5 seconds and I froze I didn’t know what to do since I was caught off guard. She probably has no idea it happened or she even remembered it but yeah…
I’m not sure if it counts or if it’s even something to be proud of or not, I certainly didn’t ask for it or even expect it for that matter. I’m not sure if anyone saw it, it was certainly out in the open and it would be one of those family breaking drama classics for a Latino family background but I certainly remember it. The only person that knows knows is my brother since I told him asking him what I should do… I think I was definitely too young to get mixed in some drama like that and be held responsible for something someone did in their own inebriated state.
I’m only kind of guessing my cousin might know because he doesn’t like me since the last time I saw him. Apparently he’s had to go to rehab for a bit in the last few years so I’m guessing she wasn’t in a good spot with him since then, hence the drinking.
She was always cool and nice since I met her when I was kid she was the only one that would talk to me at parties and she’d ask me what my favorite subject was at school and what not so she was always very sweet with me and that made it all the more confusing for me after, especially since she was always cute and beautiful I had a little crush on her as a kid whenever she would visit when I used to live at my aunt’s house. Her being that drunk was very out of character for her since she came from a very conservative Mormon family. Right now she’s practically unrecognizable, she’s lost a lot of weight and basically aged like 10 years more than she actually is since the last time I saw her.
I don’t feel any bad way about it, nor do I feel any responsibility for it, if there’s anything wrong with what happened it’s solely on her, she’s not a bad person in case anyone wants to say that on here. Anyways that’s technically my first kiss.
24M had my first kiss at 23 yes it felt magical
I was in middle school. She said she wanted to talk behind the bleachers. That’s when she grabbed me and put her tongue down my throat. I really had no idea what was happening. Years later I would lose my virginity thinking a girl was coming over to actually watch a movie with me.
I was 28. I know the feeling, man but I am fortunate that my first kiss did not feel rushed or something that I wanted to do just to finally say that I have kissed a woman I had romantic feelings for in my life. I just fear she could tell it was my first (never told her) by the way I amateurishly kissed her. She has had exes before so I knew she knew how to. And after 4 years in the relationship, she definitely does.
I hope your time will come, brother, but I also hope it will come naturally and smoothly. Happy smoochin!
14, on a camp bus 🤣 pretty good shit. hang in there boss
I was 15 , he was an 18 yo high school drop out drummer in a local band , we were laying on his bed and “I’ll stop the world and melt with you “ came on the radio, he French kissed me and yes it was dreamy 🫦
10, we were playing these kissing games, not spin the bottle but something similar. It felt weird and awkward.
First I did when I was 15 and last I did when I was 17 and now I’m 23 will be 24 in the coming week but haven’t kissed so long or not been in a relationship:(
I was 12 I think and it was not what I thought.
She went in for a make out session where I went in just for a regular kiss.
So my first kiss was making out.