My wife is the type of woman I evolved to fall in love with. I used to be into women with no goals, I realized I needed a woman who had goals and drive to achieve those goals.
When I was a teenager, I really liked the upbeat, “popular,” girls. Now, in my late 20s, I’ve found I like women who are very calm and gentle.
I can only guess as to why; but I think it’s because I’ve calmed-down quite a bit myself over the years. The smaller things in life make me smile now, and I find joy in those same areas. No need for adventure or excitement every day; just peace of mind for me. I like a woman who exudes, and searches for, that same thing. 🙂
When I was younger, I watched “Underworld” and had an immediate celebrity crush on Kate Beckinsale. So that became the “type” I wanted. Dark hair, icy blue eyes, slim, hard edgy exterior waiting to be cracked by the right person. (I had quite the imagination.)
Then when I dated my (now) wife, everything changed. My type swiftly changed to blonde, curvy, intelligent, nerdy, and sometimes dorky.
When I was younger, I wanted an emo gamer gf who listened to MCR and could do kickflips on a skateboard. Now that I’m older, I lament the tanned, ethnically-ambiguous tomboy best friend I never had, as well as the relationship we would have inevitably found ourselves in.
I know what I want from a partner looks wise. I’ve tried to compromise on that and it doesn’t make me happy. And I diet and exercise to attract that type of partner. I recognized that I can be a hypocrite about what I want if I can’t deliver on the same level.
I don’t know for sure if I ever had a strict type because I found lots of women attractive of all “types.” Prior to meeting my wife though I tended to be attracted to tall, athletic girls (I am quite tall myself) and I really liked blondes who were extroverted (I am introverted). That was probably the closest I had to a type.
I met my wife and she is 5′ 4″ which I know is average and not technically short for a women but it is short compared to what I was usually drawn to in the past.
She also had brown hair and an hourglass figure. I didn’t realize how much I LOVE an hourglass figure until I saw my wife naked. I don’t know. Its incredible.
My wife is an introvert as well, though more extroverted than me. I am glad for that though because I think being married to an extrovert would be exhausting for me.
Anyway, I would say that I married someone who wasn’t quite my type but now she very much is and I am very attracted to her and grateful that I didn’t marry what I thought was my type.
My type is more trait specific than looks. Traits have stayed the same but after being with someone for a few decades, looks preferences I would say have changed with maturity, life experiences, and lack of external factors. Other fathers may chime in on this, but while our wives see the damage done to their body from having kids with a distain generally, good men see them more as signs of what she gave up to bring life into the world with us. A sag, stretch mark, etc all the sudden becomes something we appreciate in our spouse and we love them more for it. Growing up from my single days and going into parenthood changed a lot about my perception of body likes/dislikes. Additionally the last time I was single we were being constantly bombarded across music, film, tv, radio, print, and internet about what we should aim for. Folks who were there for that if single now would not be surrounded by as much of that noise and would be more free to decide on what physical looks they actually like vs are being told to like.
As I’ve gotten older, the type of guy im attracted to has as well. A 22 year old is close to disgusting to me now, from a sexual point of view. Living in Houston, I’ve been exposed to more Asian men, so now I’m more attracted to certain types of Asian men. Generally, the more masculine looking ones like Filipinos. However, there are clearly some Chinese and Japanese ethnic groups i find very attractive. I just don’t know what they are.
As I’ve gotten older, my taste in women has gotten older as well. At this point I wouldn’t date anyone under 30.
I’m also less picky about appearance – there are certain preferences I have in that department, but in general I just want a person who is genuine/honest, positive, and intelligent. Some of those things didn’t matter to me at all 15 years ago.
I was always into the alt goth girl but I realized I was chasing an aesthetic, not a person. Ironically my first partner who was goth was chasing the same thing in me. So we both got whiplashed when we started to change.
Physically not really, in terms of who I’m willing to be with, so much, much more strict and have so many more qualifiers lol, not as willing to overlook things as I used to be.
Younger me wanted a nice smile and no bigger gals. Now, I just want affection and kindness. Loneliness hurts, even if you can’t feel it physically. Now I have 2 cats, but even then, there are times I’d like someone to have a conversation with.
It’s funny. I started with very specific standards. Slowly realized that was unrealistic and I should focus on the values she brings into my life after some disappointing episodes.
And then in my 40s I found everything I wanted physically AND an amazing human being with values I treasure.
Really the only thing thats changed is that I’m not really attracted to younger women that are 18-early 20’s. They all look way too young and i have a headache just thinking about having a conversation with them.
Yes and no. I think when I was young, I was locked into a type just because in my small town, there weren’t a lot of options. I have discovered a lot more types as I have aged that I would be excited about
No because I will accompany any woman with a nice smile, cute butt, and exuberant femininity solely in the bedroom. All of this is surface level of course. Lately I’ve been striving for more than that.
Yes because I learned in my 20s political factors play a huge part in dating. And I’ve confirmed this with my fellow female friends as well.
I’m a person of color and my creed has 0 political advantage in my country (USA). I don’t overly identify with it. I simply acknowledge it.
What I noticed when dating women above and outside of it, is they have an ironic sense of accomplishment. Typically, it’s “I did it but even in my high position; I still feel empty. Existentialism am I right?”’ Which is normal. Pink Floyd has proven this. Their high is often their sense of humor is a lot more refined. But their low simply reeks of pouting. Its work for them to appreciate the moment. I get it. They’re often overworked trying to keep a privileged position. Especially if their parents expect a lot from them.
So it changed. I tend to date within my class. It’s a different kind of compassion during the struggle of existence that feels a lot more fulfilling in the long run. It’s like a mutual understanding that the joys of a simple moment is all we will have. The bedroom is a lot more exciting as well. And acknowledging that the illusion of grandeur is a real thing. So it tends to work out better this way.
When i was a teenager it was just Asian / white women for some reason. I do realize that turning down entire races of people is racist bc not everyone looks the same and there’s beauty everywhere.
I have had a realization that my type is Hispanic women now though. Almost all of my crushes I’ve been interested in the last ten years have been Hispanic. It’s not anything I purposely sought out either. I hate the “spicy Latina” fetishization thing. But it’s not a coincidence that they’ve all been that I think. Esp if they have glasses. It does something to me. I am open to all types of women though but I do have a preference.
As a younger man, I had always been attracted to older women. At 36 years old, I’m now in the age range of the women I’ve always been attracted to, they just all seem to be in committed relationships.
I had no idea what was my preference. I remember telling my first gf I would like a strong independent woman. But over the the years I noticed I was actually more attracted to the softer delicate ones
When I was younger, I only wanted to meet people my own age – in my 20s and early 30s. Now that I’m approaching 40, I suddenly find younger people more attractive, and I’m less interested in people my age. I guess that’s normal. The people who are 24-36 and are athletic and fit are in the peak of their youth and good looks as a human being.
When I was back in high school I was 14-17 the type of girls I wanted were Thick curvy women, the hourglass shape, big boobs, butt, pretty face etc. As I got older (I’m currently 25) once you start being with those types of women you start to realize it honestly means nothing and what I mean by that is. At the end of the day, a woman is a woman. No matter how she looks doesn’t matter. What matters is the way she carries herself and her personality and her heart. Looks fade. But who she is as a person is there forever. Now granted at this age I still want that but it isn’t like mandatory. I’m simply okay with a woman with an okay body and a good personality. To spend the rest of my life with. If I can get a woman with a good personality who’s thick. Awesome. If I can’t still awesome. Its just not a requirement anymore for me.
yea it went from wanting to be with them just because of looks, now i have to actually have things in common with them and good traits or it won’t work.
I’m 42 now. Always been a boob guy. Still into tiddies that’s never changing.. But when I was younger I was more interested in gym baddies. No I would much rather have a woman with nice curves. Not saying overweight but not at all opposed to some hips or stretch marks. I guess my taste evolved with my age. I’d much rather a 40yr old that is into a bunch of stuff than a 19 year old that spends all day doing squats
My type in highschool was brunettes with blue eyes way out of my league.
Now together with the love of my life with our 1 daughter has beautiful brown eyes and goth style. But more importantly she’s a doofus adventurous goober which is what I needed in my life and way more important than looks
I have always and will forever be attracted to nice women who are able to put up with my bullshit*.
*…and by bullshit, I mean silly antics and the crippling addiction to catch her around a corner and needing to say “boo” to ever-so-slightly scare her probably once a week. Also, I like old antique gadgets and gizmos.
I don’t think it’s ever changed. I’ve always liked relatively plain, brunette girls with fun sense of humor. Never liked blondes, or makeup, or heels, or anything high maintenance. Still the same all these years later.
Other than keeping up with my own age, the common denominator has always been “thicc > slim”.
Maybe it was some oppositional response to that horrendous heroin chic fad in the late 90s, early 2000s, but young teen me never, ever, understood why we wanted women to starve away all the “womanly shape” and I stand by it to this day.
Honestly, my taste in Women hasn’t changed at all.
It’s still No Blue eyes, No Blond hair… Preferably Brown or Black eyes and the rest is personality and the vibes.
There has to be this ‘It’s almost we’ve known each other for years’-vibe, gotta ride the same wave or it won’t just do it for me.
It has expanded. Used to be just blonds, redheads, tits and ass. Now, anything from goths, dommy mommys, vapid valley girls, ebony, ivory and all shades in-between, women in sundresses, tomboys, (not femboys, learned that distinction the hard way) MILFs and even a few GILFs (Martha Stewart could request a chance to piss on my chest, and I’m pretty sure I’d still manage to get off)
When I was young, I was really into the “shrinking violet” type of personality. The ones that kind of trigger the “must protect” reflex and make you feel manly. One of my first girlfriends was that type and I remember vividly that she asked me out and I stood there dumbstruck for a second and she followed it up with “…don’t hit me” in the saddest voice I ever heard. I dated another girl that I found on a dating site and she was terrified of meeting a stranger in public and I spent 4 hours calming her down and talking to her after she didn’t show at our first date, then she eventually came around, met me at a Walmart (instead of the nice dinner place I’d planned), then we hit it off from there.
As I gained more confidence in myself, it’s harder to try to connect with people that are constantly down, critical of themselves, and afraid of connection. Given the chance, I’d still date someone like that and try to help or at least be accepting, but my personal tastes have definitely moved on to woman who are much more willing to laugh and engage from the get go.
When I was a teenager, I was into Lauren Bacall in To Have and Have Not and Juliette Lewis in Cape Fear (Juliette Lewis in anything, really.)
In college, I flat-out fell in love with Chloe Sevigny in Kids, Emily Watson in Breaking the Waves, and Parker Posey in The House of Yes. When I saw Fight Club, I thought Helena Bonham Carter was super hot — that role was over-the-top enough that even as a teenager I had to laugh at myself, and I experienced the first glimmerings of self-awareness.
The breakthrough came in my thirties when I rewatched To Have and Have Not and some of those old Juliette Lewis films and realized it had been a life-long pattern: I was attracted to trauma, mental illness, and self-destructive behavior, and I had been since I was eleven, way too young to even understand what I was looking at. When I watched To Have and Have Not as a barely pubescent pre-teen, I didn’t realize Lauren Bacall was a teenage runaway hitting on a forty year old man — to me they were both grown-ups — but somehow, probably good acting, I had an intense emotional reaction to the character. Same with Juliette Lewis in Cape Fear. I was younger (and even less mature) than the character she was portraying, but on some level I must have sensed something that was beyond my ability to understand at the time.
When I figured this out, it was obvious that it had been reflected in all of my real-life romantic involvements up to that point. It was the start of a turning point for me. It didn’t change who I was most intensely attracted to, but it did change the choices I made, and it stopped me from choosing partners who predictably couldn’t deliver what I needed from them, and then feeling guilty for not being able to make it work. Underlying my attraction to those women was an implicit assumption that I needed to be with someone who was as deeply damaged as I was, but the relationships that resulted from that logic were disasters.
As I made different choices I had different experiences, and I started to see people differently. I think that comes to everyone with age — when I see a woman, I’m not just looking for commonality and sympathy, I’m looking for how we’ll fit together, what we each bring to the table. And that has resulted in much better relationships.
25 and I only have 2 requirements for a woman. 1. Emotional Intelligence/ Self-awareness. 2. She takes care of her health and moves her body in some way regularly.
When I was younger (midteens to late 20s) my type was, above all else, people who couldn’t be there emotionally for me. People who were going thru their own stuff, consciously or otherwise, and even if they were trying to, they couldn’t give me what I wanted.
Because what I wanted, I couldn’t get from a lover, even tho I kept trying and trying.
When I figured myself out, I started being attracted to/attracting people who were more spiritually and emotionally mature.
I’ve always found myself attracted to guys my own age and so yeah, looking back on the porn that I liked when I was 18-19 makes me feel grossed out at 40.
Beyond that, I wouldn’t say that it’s significantly changed so much as broadened. I’m still attracted to some of the same features but there are also things that used to be a turn-off that I don’t mind anymore.
I’ve always had interests in many things. Growing up, a lot of those things I was told not to pursue. Now that I’m an adult, I’m unbounded by social conventions and peer pressure.
I was very shy, so my typed was a girl who could take me out of my comfort zone. Now I am more outgoing and my type is a certain introvert girl who happens to be my girlfriend 🙂
In many ways. When I was young I just wanted a pretty blonde girlfriend with long hair. As I got older I wanted that still but also wanted an emo/scene/alt girlfriend. I’ve dated both physical types of women and neither person was the right fit for me. Now thar I’m reaching 30 my physical preferences have gone way down but character and personality is huge for me. A girl can be average looking to most people but if she’s genuinely sweet and makes me feel comfortable to be around her odds are I will be into her.
Somewhat. I’ve always liked skinny, petite, and fit girls. In my teens and 20s I was pretty preferential to blondes specifically. In my 30s I’ve become more open to the types of women I find physically attractive. But all other things being equal, shorter is more attractive to me in a woman.
When I was I kid, I liked women with long, dark straight hair, between normal and thin, and around 160 cm. Nowadays I’m into short black hair (Between a buzzcut or something like the Cleopatra hairstyle), normal to curvy, and as tall as me (180). Extra points for having a fringe.
Physically – a lot. A kid of the 80’s I was all about big tits and no ass. First real girlfriend in HS was all ass and no tits, and it unlocked something lol. Then I moved to a Florida and encountered latinas en masse for the first time. That unleashed pandora’s box of booty to another level. I’ve grown since, not nearly as picky, but a nice ass (big, small, fat, fit, whatever) is a requirement.
Mentally – not much. I can’t handle a dumb woman. It drives me insane.
Personality/demeanor – still swings wildly. Past relationships have taught me what I like isn’t necessarily what is good for me, so I try to find a balance. I like wild, aggressive, challenging women. They get me in trouble though, so I have to steer clear of the conflict zones so to speak. That said, I need conflict or I get bored and annoyed (maybe challenge is a better word for it). I can’t be with a woman who goes along with all of my nonsense – been there, done that, broke her heart and never again.
Communication and willingness to work towards common goals became way more important than any physical characteristics
Eta: although big ol titties, long ass (healthy) hair, and (what I find odd sometimes) a good clavicle/upper chest/lower neck area (think Jolene Blalock and Tricia Helfer for examples of that) will always grab my attention!
Teenage me wanted the really hot girl. Nowadays, physical aesthetics are nice, but not as important. Im more drawn to women who are kind and caring. And bring able to cook doesn’t hurt 😬
My type has changed over the years. Now I don’t even look to be with woman anymore other than eye candy and friendships, not sexual.
I’ve been hurt too many times to waste my mental health with them.
I almost exclusively dated Latina or Asian women cause they fit my preferred type, long black hair, facial shape, monolidded. My gf is none of those things, but she is absolutely perfect. I have never felt so seen and accepted before and that is what really matters.
I went the opposite way as a lot of guys here are saying … my standards are far higher now for who I find pretty/attractive. Looking back I really don’t understand what I saw in some of my early crushes.
48 yrs old checking in
20s me had to be hot mid to late 20s hot milfd ok
Met my wife(total milf)
Now if we ever separated I’d go the mid hot with no drama in my life
Life is way to short for bs
Nowadays I like girls who are calm and doing somenthing for their life (Study,work) and also someone that brings me peace. Of course I still like girls that are beautiful and sexy, but it isn´t as important as it was before
I can’t speak for everyone, but I think it went something like this:
13 – 18 “I want the hottest girl”
18 – 23 “I want the most fun girl”
23 – 28 “I want a girl that’s low maintenance”
28 – 32 “I want a girl who has her shit together”
33+ got married to a girl who had her shit together*
*lived out of home, drove, owned a car, had a job, not just a bullshit job but like a real job, had studied, travelled, didnt have weird social or domestic drama with kids or an ex or her family, didnt use substances, had friends, had some level of self awareness, had goals, had ambitions etc.
Went from any woman I found attractive could be my future wife to getting the ick when I notice something I don’t like. Used to think women were corny for doing that but it’s beginning to happen more and more. Physically nothing has changed though lol. If I find them attractive it’s enough for me to go up and talk to them and if I am interested in them I’ll try to pursue a romantic relationship.
I was into more alternative/metalhead/goth type girls in high school. My first real girlfriend fit this type.. but she also had long naturally curly dark hair. Every girl I’ve been with since (except one blonde) had the long curly hair. (Granted, 21 years of that has been with my wife.) I eased off on the alt thing and turned to low/no makeup “tshirt and jeans” type girls if that makes any sense.
When I was younger I liked curvy women. Big boobs narrow waist round hips. It she was a bit bigger that was fine. After actually dating such a girl for a while and watching her balloon up in size I am done with that. Now petite shapely girls are it.
Younger me was all about skinnier ladies. Redheads preferably, but for a while Mexican women were just my thing. 30s me went for thinner white women with fat asses, and now 40s me is just head over heels for my wife. Iv watched her body change from age and motherhood- more weight and curves, some gray hairs, wrinkles and crows feet from smiles over the years. She’s still the most beautiful woman Iv ever met, and I’m still wildly attracted to her.
The physical affection isn’t reciprocated, but hey we can’t have it all. Still love that woman to pieces
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Younger me just wanted them to be hot. Mid 20s me just wants them to be nice and bring peace rather than disturbing the peace I have already.
Yea with enough time you’ll start to become very attracted to the body time your wife/SO has if you weren’t attracted to it before
It went from a highly specific set of traits and qualities to “alive and nice to me”
My wife is the type of woman I evolved to fall in love with. I used to be into women with no goals, I realized I needed a woman who had goals and drive to achieve those goals.
I’m probably more into fit girls since I started working out
I was neutral on height, then I dated a 4’10” girl and got into petite women.
Then, later, I dated a 5’11” girl and got into tall women.
I was mostly only into white women.
Then I was exposed to attractive women from a variety of ethnicities and found them to be pretty hot, too.
When I was a teenager, I really liked the upbeat, “popular,” girls. Now, in my late 20s, I’ve found I like women who are very calm and gentle.
I can only guess as to why; but I think it’s because I’ve calmed-down quite a bit myself over the years. The smaller things in life make me smile now, and I find joy in those same areas. No need for adventure or excitement every day; just peace of mind for me. I like a woman who exudes, and searches for, that same thing. 🙂
The definition of what I find attractive has become a lot more inclusive of different body shapes and sizes.
Younger me wanted them to be hot and have a swinging body.
I still need to be attracted physically but I like curvy girls now so…
More into personality. If she is nice and a fun person and has a pussy I am probably in.
I used to be into short Asian girls. Now I’m into tall Asian girls
I still like the things I liked before. I just like more things now. In other words, my type hasn’t shifted so much as expanded.
A girl who spends her weekends drinking heavily is much more attractive when you’re in college than when you’re in your late 40s.
When I was younger, I watched “Underworld” and had an immediate celebrity crush on Kate Beckinsale. So that became the “type” I wanted. Dark hair, icy blue eyes, slim, hard edgy exterior waiting to be cracked by the right person. (I had quite the imagination.)
Then when I dated my (now) wife, everything changed. My type swiftly changed to blonde, curvy, intelligent, nerdy, and sometimes dorky.
Haven’t looked back since.
I used to be i to emo chicks and tomboys till i finally dated one. Turns out i wasnt the only one dating her. 🤷♂️
Always been into thicker, older women. In the past 2 years I’ve come to appreciate and recognize the appeal of a petite body.
My type then: Hot, Intelligent, funny, sexy, olive skin, perfect body, incredible in bed and 456 other things.
My type now: Not clinically insane.
when I first began dealing with women, my type was whatever I could get.
After a few years and a few successes, I focused more oh astetics and beauty, trying to see if I could pull dimes and baddies.
Eventually, personality became paramount and my focus shifted to women with similar interests, vibes, and energy.
When I was younger, I wanted an emo gamer gf who listened to MCR and could do kickflips on a skateboard. Now that I’m older, I lament the tanned, ethnically-ambiguous tomboy best friend I never had, as well as the relationship we would have inevitably found ourselves in.
I know what I want from a partner looks wise. I’ve tried to compromise on that and it doesn’t make me happy. And I diet and exercise to attract that type of partner. I recognized that I can be a hypocrite about what I want if I can’t deliver on the same level.
I fell in love and my type became my wife.
That said I have always been attracted to nice and chill personalities. I can’t stand drama.
And the types that I specifically didn’t like I still don’t like. The key is that something I was kind of neutral on became my Top Choice
I don’t know for sure if I ever had a strict type because I found lots of women attractive of all “types.” Prior to meeting my wife though I tended to be attracted to tall, athletic girls (I am quite tall myself) and I really liked blondes who were extroverted (I am introverted). That was probably the closest I had to a type.
I met my wife and she is 5′ 4″ which I know is average and not technically short for a women but it is short compared to what I was usually drawn to in the past.
She also had brown hair and an hourglass figure. I didn’t realize how much I LOVE an hourglass figure until I saw my wife naked. I don’t know. Its incredible.
My wife is an introvert as well, though more extroverted than me. I am glad for that though because I think being married to an extrovert would be exhausting for me.
Anyway, I would say that I married someone who wasn’t quite my type but now she very much is and I am very attracted to her and grateful that I didn’t marry what I thought was my type.
My type is more trait specific than looks. Traits have stayed the same but after being with someone for a few decades, looks preferences I would say have changed with maturity, life experiences, and lack of external factors. Other fathers may chime in on this, but while our wives see the damage done to their body from having kids with a distain generally, good men see them more as signs of what she gave up to bring life into the world with us. A sag, stretch mark, etc all the sudden becomes something we appreciate in our spouse and we love them more for it. Growing up from my single days and going into parenthood changed a lot about my perception of body likes/dislikes. Additionally the last time I was single we were being constantly bombarded across music, film, tv, radio, print, and internet about what we should aim for. Folks who were there for that if single now would not be surrounded by as much of that noise and would be more free to decide on what physical looks they actually like vs are being told to like.
As I’ve gotten older, the type of guy im attracted to has as well. A 22 year old is close to disgusting to me now, from a sexual point of view. Living in Houston, I’ve been exposed to more Asian men, so now I’m more attracted to certain types of Asian men. Generally, the more masculine looking ones like Filipinos. However, there are clearly some Chinese and Japanese ethnic groups i find very attractive. I just don’t know what they are.
As I’ve gotten older, my taste in women has gotten older as well. At this point I wouldn’t date anyone under 30.
I’m also less picky about appearance – there are certain preferences I have in that department, but in general I just want a person who is genuine/honest, positive, and intelligent. Some of those things didn’t matter to me at all 15 years ago.
I was always into the alt goth girl but I realized I was chasing an aesthetic, not a person. Ironically my first partner who was goth was chasing the same thing in me. So we both got whiplashed when we started to change.
My preference for weight just keeps going up the older I get. I have a sickness, and it appears to be chronic and progressing.
When I met my wife she was literally my dream girl when it came to looks.
So my type just basically changes with how she looks.
She doesn’t believe me, but I don’t care.
She’s gorgeous.
Most dudes don’t really have the luxury of having a type
Most dudes just hope they can find someone that wants them as much as they want her
Physically not really, in terms of who I’m willing to be with, so much, much more strict and have so many more qualifiers lol, not as willing to overlook things as I used to be.
Younger me wanted a nice smile and no bigger gals. Now, I just want affection and kindness. Loneliness hurts, even if you can’t feel it physically. Now I have 2 cats, but even then, there are times I’d like someone to have a conversation with.
It’s funny. I started with very specific standards. Slowly realized that was unrealistic and I should focus on the values she brings into my life after some disappointing episodes.
And then in my 40s I found everything I wanted physically AND an amazing human being with values I treasure.
I realize my luck every day.
Blondes with big boobs. Starting day one. Still the same. 67M.
Keeps getting heavier
Facial appearance matters less for me over time than if her ass is sufficiently fat
Definitely value emotional maturity and pragmatism a lot more nowadays too
I used to be a thick women type, and over the years evolved to preferring an avg build woman with a huge appetite for sex type.
Because.
Really the only thing thats changed is that I’m not really attracted to younger women that are 18-early 20’s. They all look way too young and i have a headache just thinking about having a conversation with them.
Once a boob guy always a boob guy. My tolerance for type just got wider.
I never developed a type since I have never been any woman’s type.
Yes and no. I think when I was young, I was locked into a type just because in my small town, there weren’t a lot of options. I have discovered a lot more types as I have aged that I would be excited about
No and yes.
No because I will accompany any woman with a nice smile, cute butt, and exuberant femininity solely in the bedroom. All of this is surface level of course. Lately I’ve been striving for more than that.
Yes because I learned in my 20s political factors play a huge part in dating. And I’ve confirmed this with my fellow female friends as well.
I’m a person of color and my creed has 0 political advantage in my country (USA). I don’t overly identify with it. I simply acknowledge it.
What I noticed when dating women above and outside of it, is they have an ironic sense of accomplishment. Typically, it’s “I did it but even in my high position; I still feel empty. Existentialism am I right?”’ Which is normal. Pink Floyd has proven this. Their high is often their sense of humor is a lot more refined. But their low simply reeks of pouting. Its work for them to appreciate the moment. I get it. They’re often overworked trying to keep a privileged position. Especially if their parents expect a lot from them.
So it changed. I tend to date within my class. It’s a different kind of compassion during the struggle of existence that feels a lot more fulfilling in the long run. It’s like a mutual understanding that the joys of a simple moment is all we will have. The bedroom is a lot more exciting as well. And acknowledging that the illusion of grandeur is a real thing. So it tends to work out better this way.
My “type” is female, and it hasn’t changed, though there have been times I wish it had lol
When i was a teenager it was just Asian / white women for some reason. I do realize that turning down entire races of people is racist bc not everyone looks the same and there’s beauty everywhere.
I have had a realization that my type is Hispanic women now though. Almost all of my crushes I’ve been interested in the last ten years have been Hispanic. It’s not anything I purposely sought out either. I hate the “spicy Latina” fetishization thing. But it’s not a coincidence that they’ve all been that I think. Esp if they have glasses. It does something to me. I am open to all types of women though but I do have a preference.
As a younger man, I had always been attracted to older women. At 36 years old, I’m now in the age range of the women I’ve always been attracted to, they just all seem to be in committed relationships.
I used to go for nerdy, studious girls when I was in university.
Now I go for cute, hot women, blonde.
I think it changed because I fell in love with a woman supporting me rather than being angry and completely refusing to do anything for me.
I had no idea what was my preference. I remember telling my first gf I would like a strong independent woman. But over the the years I noticed I was actually more attracted to the softer delicate ones
I just got less superficial over time. Now I just want someone who ‘gets it’.
When I was younger, I only wanted to meet people my own age – in my 20s and early 30s. Now that I’m approaching 40, I suddenly find younger people more attractive, and I’m less interested in people my age. I guess that’s normal. The people who are 24-36 and are athletic and fit are in the peak of their youth and good looks as a human being.
When I was back in high school I was 14-17 the type of girls I wanted were Thick curvy women, the hourglass shape, big boobs, butt, pretty face etc. As I got older (I’m currently 25) once you start being with those types of women you start to realize it honestly means nothing and what I mean by that is. At the end of the day, a woman is a woman. No matter how she looks doesn’t matter. What matters is the way she carries herself and her personality and her heart. Looks fade. But who she is as a person is there forever. Now granted at this age I still want that but it isn’t like mandatory. I’m simply okay with a woman with an okay body and a good personality. To spend the rest of my life with. If I can get a woman with a good personality who’s thick. Awesome. If I can’t still awesome. Its just not a requirement anymore for me.
yea it went from wanting to be with them just because of looks, now i have to actually have things in common with them and good traits or it won’t work.
I’m 42 now. Always been a boob guy. Still into tiddies that’s never changing.. But when I was younger I was more interested in gym baddies. No I would much rather have a woman with nice curves. Not saying overweight but not at all opposed to some hips or stretch marks. I guess my taste evolved with my age. I’d much rather a 40yr old that is into a bunch of stuff than a 19 year old that spends all day doing squats
My type in highschool was brunettes with blue eyes way out of my league.
Now together with the love of my life with our 1 daughter has beautiful brown eyes and goth style. But more importantly she’s a doofus adventurous goober which is what I needed in my life and way more important than looks
I have always and will forever be attracted to nice women who are able to put up with my bullshit*.
*…and by bullshit, I mean silly antics and the crippling addiction to catch her around a corner and needing to say “boo” to ever-so-slightly scare her probably once a week. Also, I like old antique gadgets and gizmos.
I guess I got lot more into taller girls since they were the ones that would give me a lot more attention in the first place.
My type is whatever my wife is.
Young and fit: Yep
Pregnant: Oh yeah
Curvy: Mmmhmmm
Back in shape with some of the baby-weight curves still: Fuck yes
I used to like crazy women. I still do, but I used to too.
Yep.
My first crush was when i was 5. But ive always preferred women between 30s and 40s.
A type? Not so much. I just have some very distinct physical and verbal dislikes that override type preference.
Ass and titties. Always has been, always will be.
I don’t think it’s ever changed. I’ve always liked relatively plain, brunette girls with fun sense of humor. Never liked blondes, or makeup, or heels, or anything high maintenance. Still the same all these years later.
Other than keeping up with my own age, the common denominator has always been “thicc > slim”.
Maybe it was some oppositional response to that horrendous heroin chic fad in the late 90s, early 2000s, but young teen me never, ever, understood why we wanted women to starve away all the “womanly shape” and I stand by it to this day.
Honestly, my taste in Women hasn’t changed at all.
It’s still No Blue eyes, No Blond hair… Preferably Brown or Black eyes and the rest is personality and the vibes.
There has to be this ‘It’s almost we’ve known each other for years’-vibe, gotta ride the same wave or it won’t just do it for me.
It has expanded. Used to be just blonds, redheads, tits and ass. Now, anything from goths, dommy mommys, vapid valley girls, ebony, ivory and all shades in-between, women in sundresses, tomboys, (not femboys, learned that distinction the hard way) MILFs and even a few GILFs (Martha Stewart could request a chance to piss on my chest, and I’m pretty sure I’d still manage to get off)
When I was young, I was really into the “shrinking violet” type of personality. The ones that kind of trigger the “must protect” reflex and make you feel manly. One of my first girlfriends was that type and I remember vividly that she asked me out and I stood there dumbstruck for a second and she followed it up with “…don’t hit me” in the saddest voice I ever heard. I dated another girl that I found on a dating site and she was terrified of meeting a stranger in public and I spent 4 hours calming her down and talking to her after she didn’t show at our first date, then she eventually came around, met me at a Walmart (instead of the nice dinner place I’d planned), then we hit it off from there.
As I gained more confidence in myself, it’s harder to try to connect with people that are constantly down, critical of themselves, and afraid of connection. Given the chance, I’d still date someone like that and try to help or at least be accepting, but my personal tastes have definitely moved on to woman who are much more willing to laugh and engage from the get go.
When I was a teenager, I was into Lauren Bacall in To Have and Have Not and Juliette Lewis in Cape Fear (Juliette Lewis in anything, really.)
In college, I flat-out fell in love with Chloe Sevigny in Kids, Emily Watson in Breaking the Waves, and Parker Posey in The House of Yes. When I saw Fight Club, I thought Helena Bonham Carter was super hot — that role was over-the-top enough that even as a teenager I had to laugh at myself, and I experienced the first glimmerings of self-awareness.
The breakthrough came in my thirties when I rewatched To Have and Have Not and some of those old Juliette Lewis films and realized it had been a life-long pattern: I was attracted to trauma, mental illness, and self-destructive behavior, and I had been since I was eleven, way too young to even understand what I was looking at. When I watched To Have and Have Not as a barely pubescent pre-teen, I didn’t realize Lauren Bacall was a teenage runaway hitting on a forty year old man — to me they were both grown-ups — but somehow, probably good acting, I had an intense emotional reaction to the character. Same with Juliette Lewis in Cape Fear. I was younger (and even less mature) than the character she was portraying, but on some level I must have sensed something that was beyond my ability to understand at the time.
When I figured this out, it was obvious that it had been reflected in all of my real-life romantic involvements up to that point. It was the start of a turning point for me. It didn’t change who I was most intensely attracted to, but it did change the choices I made, and it stopped me from choosing partners who predictably couldn’t deliver what I needed from them, and then feeling guilty for not being able to make it work. Underlying my attraction to those women was an implicit assumption that I needed to be with someone who was as deeply damaged as I was, but the relationships that resulted from that logic were disasters.
As I made different choices I had different experiences, and I started to see people differently. I think that comes to everyone with age — when I see a woman, I’m not just looking for commonality and sympathy, I’m looking for how we’ll fit together, what we each bring to the table. And that has resulted in much better relationships.
25 and I only have 2 requirements for a woman. 1. Emotional Intelligence/ Self-awareness. 2. She takes care of her health and moves her body in some way regularly.
Ok, damn.
When I was younger (midteens to late 20s) my type was, above all else, people who couldn’t be there emotionally for me. People who were going thru their own stuff, consciously or otherwise, and even if they were trying to, they couldn’t give me what I wanted.
Because what I wanted, I couldn’t get from a lover, even tho I kept trying and trying.
When I figured myself out, I started being attracted to/attracting people who were more spiritually and emotionally mature.
Bella xiao!
I’ve always found myself attracted to guys my own age and so yeah, looking back on the porn that I liked when I was 18-19 makes me feel grossed out at 40.
Beyond that, I wouldn’t say that it’s significantly changed so much as broadened. I’m still attracted to some of the same features but there are also things that used to be a turn-off that I don’t mind anymore.
I’ve always had interests in many things. Growing up, a lot of those things I was told not to pursue. Now that I’m an adult, I’m unbounded by social conventions and peer pressure.
My type was/is large boobied latina girls who have pillows for lips.
I married a petite jewish woman who may not actually have lips.
Love gives no fucks what you like.
I was very shy, so my typed was a girl who could take me out of my comfort zone. Now I am more outgoing and my type is a certain introvert girl who happens to be my girlfriend 🙂
they are getting older
In many ways. When I was young I just wanted a pretty blonde girlfriend with long hair. As I got older I wanted that still but also wanted an emo/scene/alt girlfriend. I’ve dated both physical types of women and neither person was the right fit for me. Now thar I’m reaching 30 my physical preferences have gone way down but character and personality is huge for me. A girl can be average looking to most people but if she’s genuinely sweet and makes me feel comfortable to be around her odds are I will be into her.
Somewhat. I’ve always liked skinny, petite, and fit girls. In my teens and 20s I was pretty preferential to blondes specifically. In my 30s I’ve become more open to the types of women I find physically attractive. But all other things being equal, shorter is more attractive to me in a woman.
When I was I kid, I liked women with long, dark straight hair, between normal and thin, and around 160 cm. Nowadays I’m into short black hair (Between a buzzcut or something like the Cleopatra hairstyle), normal to curvy, and as tall as me (180). Extra points for having a fringe.
Personality-wise my tastes didn’t change.
I used to love fake tits and now love small naturals on a fit body
I’m 35. Everything has changed about me over the years, including what my type is.
I might still like big tits, but their importance has diminished significantly.
Physically – a lot. A kid of the 80’s I was all about big tits and no ass. First real girlfriend in HS was all ass and no tits, and it unlocked something lol. Then I moved to a Florida and encountered latinas en masse for the first time. That unleashed pandora’s box of booty to another level. I’ve grown since, not nearly as picky, but a nice ass (big, small, fat, fit, whatever) is a requirement.
Mentally – not much. I can’t handle a dumb woman. It drives me insane.
Personality/demeanor – still swings wildly. Past relationships have taught me what I like isn’t necessarily what is good for me, so I try to find a balance. I like wild, aggressive, challenging women. They get me in trouble though, so I have to steer clear of the conflict zones so to speak. That said, I need conflict or I get bored and annoyed (maybe challenge is a better word for it). I can’t be with a woman who goes along with all of my nonsense – been there, done that, broke her heart and never again.
My type has changed, I just don’t want them to be insane or obese, but apparently I’m being picky
Kuudere ➜ Tsundere ➜ MuscularFuta 😝
Not really. Since finishing high school I’ve been into full-bodied mid to late 20s girls with a beautiful smile and pleasant demeanor
Someone who has a life of their own and doesn’t need me around all the time and lets me live a normal life too
It’s stayed mostly the same with the only change being that I find redheads attractive. I’m not sure when it changed or why I didn’t like them before.
Redheads are hot as hell.
Communication and willingness to work towards common goals became way more important than any physical characteristics
Eta: although big ol titties, long ass (healthy) hair, and (what I find odd sometimes) a good clavicle/upper chest/lower neck area (think Jolene Blalock and Tricia Helfer for examples of that) will always grab my attention!
Someone emotionally available 100% but if we’re talking about looks, I went from the stereotypical blonde and blue eyes to Hispanic girls.
Teenage me wanted the really hot girl. Nowadays, physical aesthetics are nice, but not as important. Im more drawn to women who are kind and caring. And bring able to cook doesn’t hurt 😬
I liked tall and smart in my teens when I met my wife. Still like tall and smart in my 40’s, and she’s still putting up with me.
Now that you mention it, I realize that its never changed. I’ve had the same type all my life.
I realized I was tall, so I started paying more attention to taller girls.
My type has changed over the years. Now I don’t even look to be with woman anymore other than eye candy and friendships, not sexual.
I’ve been hurt too many times to waste my mental health with them.
Finally realised that 90% of woman are beautiful
I almost exclusively dated Latina or Asian women cause they fit my preferred type, long black hair, facial shape, monolidded. My gf is none of those things, but she is absolutely perfect. I have never felt so seen and accepted before and that is what really matters.
I went the opposite way as a lot of guys here are saying … my standards are far higher now for who I find pretty/attractive. Looking back I really don’t understand what I saw in some of my early crushes.
I have been into hot middle aged women who are great teammates for as long as I can remember, and that’s what I’m still trying to find.
48 yrs old checking in
20s me had to be hot mid to late 20s hot milfd ok
Met my wife(total milf)
Now if we ever separated I’d go the mid hot with no drama in my life
Life is way to short for bs
Nowadays I like girls who are calm and doing somenthing for their life (Study,work) and also someone that brings me peace. Of course I still like girls that are beautiful and sexy, but it isn´t as important as it was before
Still a sucker for a pretty blonde lady 😍 I am now accepting of being bisexual so I guess being interested in men too is a change.
I can’t speak for everyone, but I think it went something like this:
*lived out of home, drove, owned a car, had a job, not just a bullshit job but like a real job, had studied, travelled, didnt have weird social or domestic drama with kids or an ex or her family, didnt use substances, had friends, had some level of self awareness, had goals, had ambitions etc.
Went from any woman I found attractive could be my future wife to getting the ick when I notice something I don’t like. Used to think women were corny for doing that but it’s beginning to happen more and more. Physically nothing has changed though lol. If I find them attractive it’s enough for me to go up and talk to them and if I am interested in them I’ll try to pursue a romantic relationship.
went from very specific to “its all good”
its what aging does to men
I don’t know what my type is I’ll be honest. I’ve never had an offline relationship so I just have a vague idea of what I’d like in a partner
I was into more alternative/metalhead/goth type girls in high school. My first real girlfriend fit this type.. but she also had long naturally curly dark hair. Every girl I’ve been with since (except one blonde) had the long curly hair. (Granted, 21 years of that has been with my wife.) I eased off on the alt thing and turned to low/no makeup “tshirt and jeans” type girls if that makes any sense.
I’ve always been into left handed, artistic, short, pale brunette with light blue eyes.
When I was younger I liked curvy women. Big boobs narrow waist round hips. It she was a bit bigger that was fine. After actually dating such a girl for a while and watching her balloon up in size I am done with that. Now petite shapely girls are it.
Younger me wanted blonde, tanned, with big tits, which was pretty standard for 14 year old boys of the time, I suppose.
These days, alt, goth, punk, tomboy, and other non-traditional types draw me in. Sounds backwards, but normal people are so boring.
My type has gotten curvier, more voluptuous & more auburn or black headed.
Because we’re growing old together.
Younger me was all about skinnier ladies. Redheads preferably, but for a while Mexican women were just my thing. 30s me went for thinner white women with fat asses, and now 40s me is just head over heels for my wife. Iv watched her body change from age and motherhood- more weight and curves, some gray hairs, wrinkles and crows feet from smiles over the years. She’s still the most beautiful woman Iv ever met, and I’m still wildly attracted to her.
The physical affection isn’t reciprocated, but hey we can’t have it all. Still love that woman to pieces