i’ve been going to countless concerts with my mother since 2021 (way before i met my boyfriend, we’ve known each other for a year 1/2 and have been going out for 7 months). music is a huge part of my life and i love attending them with my mom, sometimes we even travel 3-4 hours to go to the farther venues when they don’t come to our city.
today, he asked me when my next concert was (i told him a week ago about it and he was so upset that he didn’t bring it up again). i knew they upset him, but this was part of me and he knew that when we started dating. i tried saying that this would be the last one i go to for a long time. he said “no, i’m telling you this is the last time” and “if you ever go to another one i’ll break up with you”. i was so shocked, but didn’t say anything. does anyone have advice on what to do? i love him so much and i’m afraid of losing him. i’ve never had a good relationship, i thought he was different. but i’m starting to see all the controlling red flags he has. concerts isn’t the only thing he’s prevented me from doing. i don’t know how to speak up for myself.
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Speak up by going to the concerts and ditching him. Plenty of fish in the sea
Im not reading the rest of it. Caption is enough. LEAVE HIM NOW.
Good lord! Why would you want to be with such a controlling asshole? Dump him now!
Yep, it’s a pretty healthy thing and, honestly, enviable thing you guys have going for some guy who wants to control you. You already see the red flags, just walk away and let the crybaby alone.
Why is he against you going to a concert in the first place?? Yes it’s controlling. Go have fun at your concert! There’s nothing wrong with them. I thought I’d open this up and he would be mad that he couldn’t go or something. This is dumb. You’re fine. Go to your concert and he can deal with it. Don’t let him stress you out. Break up if you need to.
What are you waiting for? Sign up for another concert.
Break up with him. He’s trying to control you. Which is bad. You’re out with your mother. Tell him to do one. Remind him he’s not your Dad. Get rid.
Your boyfriend is an asshole.
Don’t you dare stop going to concerts.. anyone who threatens to break up with you for doing something you love is a walking red flag.
Believe me, it won’t stop with the concerts. He’ll expect you to keep giving up things (and people) until there’s nothing of you left.
Get out NOW.
Tell your mom about the threat and that you need help to leave him. Do it now. The longer you’re with him the harder it becomes. Call her now, before you can talk yourself out of it. Tell her everything.
me not reading the rest of it lol just leave him already
Never sacrifice parts of yourself for people who won’t appreciate the sacrifice.
Sounds like concerts with mom is a thing for you, and will be a way to connect with her after she’s gone.
This boy sounds controlling and inconsiderate, dislodge the anchor from your heart, he doesn’t deserve it.
Dump him. He’s a controlling AH. These times with your mom are precious. Dont lose a one of them over this dbag. (From someone who hates concerts.)
I don’t see the problem here. If you were going to these concerts with another guy, I’d maybe be a little insecure and possibly would have a problem with that, but going to concerts with your mom? No big deal there, that actually sounds fun! It sounds like this guys just being a controlling a-hole. If concerts are really important to you, than don’t let him stop you.
It does not take any thinking at all to make a decision on this. Like you did say, the concerts aren’t the only things he’s trying to keep you from, and there’s obviously many more red flags than I can know.
But generally speaking, I’ve never been in a relationship for some time. Common sense can come into play here, and I highly suggest either making a compromise (very likely won’t work) or just leaving him. Don’t let him control you and keep you from enjoying your life, find your fun.
Though that’s just me. Whatever choice you do make, please stay safe out there. The world isn’t easy.
So is this something you do every weekend? Multiple times per week?
My advice: run far, run fast.
Go to the concert.
Say good bye to him. This is insane. No good will come of this. Stand up for yourself.
I don’t understand , what’s his problem ???
Let him break up with you.
The audacity of him!
He’s not even paying for the tickets.
Don’t date a red flag who’s trying to control you unreasonably.