My mother passed away in January, and I was with her in the hospital for her last breath. My girlfriend at the time, who I had been with for over 5 years was off from work and not busy that day/night. When I finally had a chance to call her after leaving the hospital, she was not on her way to come and be with me. When I asked her if she was on her way (she was driving), she said, “no I wasnt planning on it”. Even though she had texted me a few hours before offering to come. This became a fight and she came out of protest. She was going to her parents house for dinner instead. Said it was not her place to come. Mind you, her and I lived together for over two years and had been discussing possibly getting married. This was something I could not get over unfortunately, and I ended our relationship a little over a month later. It was not the first time she left me hanging when I needed her. I felt I could not rely on her to do the right thing when it mattered.
Am I right for feeling the way I do and for ending the relationship? In my opinion, she should have been in the lobby of the hospital or at least on her way. She never did stuff naturally and I thought she was a very self centered person.
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Yes. If she can’t be there for you when you need her badly, you don’t need her in your life. Best of luck finding someone worthy.
I think you’re right. If my partner’s mom passed, any bad blood we had is water under the bridge immediately because… holy shit? That’s world shaking for anyone.
She was selfish and immature. I don’t know you, but I do know you deserve better than that.
ETA: I’m so sorry about your mom OP. I hope you’re able to take the time you need to grieve.
A few years ago my son was dating a young lady. One day her brother was (ultimately fatally) injured in a motorcycle accident. They were on a date when she got the phone call, and they rushed to the hospital. He had never met her family. For four days he sat by her side outside the ICU. He fetched food and coffee. He sat quietly and felt really awkward, but he was there.
They are now engaged.
You made the right choice. My condolences for the loss of your mother.