So I just graduated college last week, and I was lucky enough to receive a decent amount of cash gifts from relatives and family friends. Nothing crazy, but enough to help me breathe a little while I look for a job.
My younger sister (she’s still in high school) saw me counting the money and straight up asked how much I got. I told her it was enough to help cover some rent and bills for a couple months. She then said, “Well, you should give me some. I helped you get through school by keeping Mom and Dad off your back.”
I honestly thought she was joking, but she was dead serious. She said that I owe her for being supportive and that she deserves a cut. I kind of snapped and told her, “You didn’t write a single paper, pay a single fee, or lose a single night of sleep for this degree. You’re not getting a dime.”
She got really upset and told my parents I was being greedy and ungrateful. Now she’s been cold to me ever since. My mom thinks I could have handled it more gently, but my dad is on my side.
I don’t think I was rude — I just got frustrated. It felt super entitled for her to ask that, especially since she’s always made fun of me for studying so much.
So… AITA for shutting her down that way?
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NTA, as you said, she acts entitled while it’s none of her business. Now she’s pouting because her manipulation didn’t work. Let her sulk on her own.
NTA
IDK where she got that entitled BS from, but your parents better do a better job with her NOW.
no, you’re not the ah. it’s your graduation money, and your sister asking for a cut like that was out of line. maybe you could’ve said it softer, but you were honest and set a boundary. she’ll get over it.
She really said “where’s my cut”? Nah, you’re good.
NTA. Graduation money is essentially a gift for your hard work, not a group lottery winning. Keep it and use it for your future.
NTA you sister sounds like a brat
Someone is an entitled brat, and honey, it isn’t you. Wow, and then to run to mommy and daddy and tell them you are being greedy for wanting to keep the gifts you were given? Your mom is not helping, by correcting you. She should have a talk with little sister about what is acceptable to ask people. A cut of graduation presents is completely unreasonable, unrealistic, and will not happen.
Your mom is enabling your sisters entitled brat behavior.
Well the entitlement has started , she will
Make some man regret ever getting married . You can see her trying to tell
Her husband she should be a SAHW and she keep the thr emotional
Labour for husband not very little of anything else
NTA
I would have handed her a dollar and said that should about do it. LOL she would have been so insulted. /s I actually wouldn’t do that but it seemed kind of funny. She is being entitled and doesn’t deserve a dime and when she graduates and gets money I bet she wouldn’t give you anything either. I’m so glad your parents didn’t tell you to just give her some to keep the peace. She’ll get over it eventually.
Hide your money well.
NTA.
AI? A totally stupid proposition backed by a relative.
NTA and if she’s fast turning into an entitled woman child which wouldn’t help her in the real world. Asking for help is one thing and asking for a “cut” is another, basically entitlement.
Put that money somewhere safe. She will help herself.
NTA.
Wow – your parents kind of dropped the ball when raising her. I have never heard of anyone demanding a cut of someone’s grad present. Your mom? Yeah, she needs to be talking to her daughter.
NTA but get the cash in the bank asap.
Dear sister, it was stupid to try to bully me just before I departed to college. I guess your five next years will be very lonely.
NTA- you better deposit that money though or hide it where she won’t look. Because I wouldn’t trust her not to steal any of it.
So when she graduates you’re gonna get your cut right? Lol she’s a clown and she knows it. Greedy little asshole in the making.
If I gave you money as a graduation gift I’d be pissed if you gave it away!
NTA. Tell her she can get the same when SHE graduates college.
NTA. She’s acting all entitled and it’s insane. Stand your ground. Hopefully life will give her hard lessons she needs to learn.
Not her money period
Wow she kept your mom and dad off your back. You know, maybe she’s right. Maybe she does deserve something. Did you have a $1 bill?
She’s delusional to think that you should give her any of your money.
Please put that cash in a bank, with password/details she cant work out*, immediately.
* so for example your pets first name might be “$5dwYpPwT%” not “Timmy” or whatever it really was, mothers maiden name is NOT mothers maiden name, and so on.
ETA NTA
Life lesson learned. Don’t tell anyone how much you’ve got, earned, won or lost. As they will want a share or shun you incase you need help.
If it’s known that you have it, admit to only a small portion of it.
NTA glad your family has your back and your mum’s wrong, that was exactly the way to close down an entitled performance.
NTA. Remind her that she will probably get similar gifts when she graduates.
NTA. She can get her own money when she graduates.
So many of these AITAs are Entitled People posts put here for some reason I can’t fathom.
Wait…. How are you being greedy?
NTA.
And as long as she acts cold towards you, enjoy the silence. Silence is better than those entitled demands where you don’t know if you should laugh or shake your head until you have a concussion.
”You should’ve told me that your support has a price tag from day one. I am now teaching you a lesson worth money for your future: Do not do the work before you’ve reached an agreement about the pay.”
She should have been taught long ago that most of the time we do nice things for people because it’s the right thing to do. Expecting to be compensated for those times is wrong. Your parents failed her in that regard.
While you were harsh, you were right to put the lid on that immediately.
NTA
Nta
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NTA she can get money when SHE graduates. Your mom is a passive asshole. You handled it just fine.
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NTA. Next time she asks you to do her a favor, no matter how small, quote her a price. When she asks what you’re talking about tell her “Oh well apparently I ‘owe’ you for ‘helping with mom and dad’ so I thought we pay each other for everything. Oh by the way you owe me $ for , $$ for , $$$ for __, etc. etc.” See how she likes the system SHE came up with. ALSO ‘greedy’ for wanting to KEEP YOUR OWN MONEY that you got for graduating college that SHE thinks SHE deserves a cut of for ‘bs excuse here’
In what way did she keep your parents off your back?
Tell her that when she graduates college, you’ll be there with a nice cash gift for her.
Oh my goodness, where to begin! Ah, congratulations on your graduation! You earned the gifts, people are happy for your achievement.
Your sister sounds like a piece of work. Did she mesmerize your parents and keep them under some type of spell for 4 years? Or how powerful is your younger sister that she alone can control your mom and dad? If I were them I’d be downright pissed she made such an asinine remark.
You were not harsh in putting that impudent little brat in her place! Your mother is likely the reason she is so entitled!
You are NTA. Enjoy the freedom and peace the money gives you as you seek your career. Good luck!
NTA, fuck her.