So first there are talks about suicide so if you’re uncomfortable then click off because it comes up.
So my daughter is 13 and has a best friend who is 14. We will call her friend Maddie. So Maddie and my daughter have been friends for 8 years. We moved in across the street from each other at the same time and after that they became best friends. So Maddie has always just had big freak outs and they never knew why. She would yell and just misbehave and bully her sister in a way most people don’t bully their siblings. She tells her little sister to k1ll herself. So after about three years Maddie and her family moved away to a different state. Maddie and my daughter kept in contact and then about a year later Maddie’s family moved back. However there weren’t any homes for sale in our neighborhood so they live about 3 miles away. (They live on the top of a hill we live in the bottom) anyway Maddie’s freak outs continued to get worse and worse she would scream at her parents. So they took her to get tested and found out she had autism. So fast forward. My daughter was at her dad’s house. (We are divorced and I have 3 kids and two of my kids are over 18 so they don’t go to both houses) anyway it was me and one of my other daughters and we were in the living room and we saw Maddie looking in the window. I brushed it off because the neighbors usually babysit Maddie little sister so I just assumed that her parents were picking Maddie sister up. So an hour goes by and the door bell rings and it’s Maddie. She is clearly very anxious so I ask her what’s wrong and she says “I ran away from home and I’m scared to go back because of the mountain lions.” And she started sobbing. So I welcome her inside get her water and a blanket and she won’t sit down. And she kept saying “I’m sorry to bother you” and I kept reassuring her she isn’t bothering us at all. After she calmed down I asked her “does your mom know your here?” She shook her head and I told her. “I have to tell your mom she is probably worried sick.” She starts crying saying no don’t tell them she is going to be so mad please don’t. I don’t wanna go back” I tell her I have too. So I text her mom and her mom says thank you so much. And a few minutes later her mom shows up bawling. She immediately ran to Maddie. Maddie put her hand up and yelled “NO get away from me” so me and my daughter left them alone to talk apparently her dad was driving around looking for her and they called the police. Ever since that day she talked about suicide she would jokingly say to my daughter she wants to k1ll herself. And she would constantly ask my daughter everyday if she would be home in the evening.
So now I’m wondering if other things are going on and if there are should I do anything or no because we are really worried about her.
Additional information:
She lives on top of a mountain and the road is super windy and has no side walk. The only way to walk down is through the bushes and hike down.
Comments
call the police so they can do a wellness check get a paper trail going for this girl
You absolutely did the right thing calling her Mom. Poor kid must of been *in hell until she was diagnosed.
Now I would ask Mom for coffee and let her know you have concerns about Maddie’s ideation. At the very least there should be a phone call. You could even maybe research and give mom info about local resources that could help.
If this was your daughter, you would want the other parent to tell you.
The good thing is Maddie is telling someone at the moment. That’s a call for help.
Edited to add *in
I don’t suspect abuse but I do think her parents aren’t getting her appropriate help.
Of course you should try to help. That’s a no-brainer. The question is what should you do. And the answer to that is to contact children services.
You need to report to children’s services everything you have heard. Every threat of self harm the child has made. Every incident that you know of. And then you need to allow them to investigate.
Maybe there is something going on at home. In which case you’ve put the ball in motion to find out what’s going on and possibly saved her life.
Maybe she has some severe emotional disregulation. In which case they will investigate and offer the family services.