so i’ve been debating reconnecting with this old friend for so long now, but i just don’t know if it’s the right decision to make considering we haven’t talked since like mid 2021. for context, i (24f) became acquainted with this friend (24M) through my bff — bc it’s her cousin — in march of 2020. it kind started as a joke bc i thought he was cute and was like “omg let me hit him up bestie”, but we actually ended up having a lot in common and some good conversations. i wouldn’t say we were super close bc it was covid quarantine time so we never got to meet in person actually, but we had talked a LOT and i was having a lot of fun talking with him even if it wasn’t in a romantic sense. (which actually there were a couple instances where we had flirted a little back and forth, and mind you we would watch shows together on our separate laptops at the same time🤔 but i digress). anyway, although we did talk a lot, there were some times when we would go without talking bc he just wouldn’t respond or would be very dry — which is like ok you do you, but i was just very clingy/yapatron3000 during that time so i was a little like upset when he wouldn’t reach out. (but then i sometimes think like was i the only one who would reach out first mostly??? but i can’t remember that well so don’t hold me to that lol)
but anyways, the friendship kinda fizzled out after a bit around the end of 2020/beginning of 2021 bc there had been some awkwardness/uncomfortablenesses bc of another situation. (i also at another point had told him like in a heeheehaha way like “omg dude initially i wanted to start talking with you bc i thought you were cute blah blah”, but it didn’t seem like he really cared idk). so anyways, after the situation mentioned before, we only talked like a couple more times and then that was it :/
i’ve obviously told my bestie about this, but im just conflicted on reaching out again bc we did really hit it off as friends. the only thing is though that one of the last few times we talked, he had invited me to hang out with him and a group of friends and he particularly mentioned his gf which at that time i hadn’t even known he had a gf, but it felt intentionally mentioned. idk, maybe i just read that wrong. but anyways, i would just think it would be cool to talk with him again, especially bc i know 2020 me was so diff and cringe and i think we could get along better now that im not stuck in quarantine with a weird personality lol also, sorry if this was just me yapping, i just needed to tell other ppl besides my bff