I have a friend I’ve known for years, but lately I feel like I’m always the one reaching out, planning things, checking in. If I stopped texting, I don’t think we’d talk at all. I still care, but I’m starting to feel taken for granted. Is it worth bringing up or do I just let it fade?
How do you handle being the only one putting effort into a friendship?
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I honestly now let things fade
I’m tired of running after people you know
They clearly don’t want to be in a friendship with you. Don’t reach out again and see how long it takes them. I’m doing this with one friend and just texted him happy birthday twice with no response. I won’t be reaching out again.
Unless something is going on in their life that is causing problems, there’s usually only one response. Let go. Same goes for romantic relationships. People tend to give and give and give thinking it’ll make the other person give. Nope.
Let them reach out. They will show you how much effort they want to give going forward. Might just be a monthly catching up or just never.
if you are the only one putting in effort you dont have a friendship, you have a person you know that you are friendly with.
I’ve noticed I’m usually the one reaching out, and it’s been making me feel a bit taken for granted. I care about our friendship, but I also need to feel like it’s mutual
let it fade