Recently me 24M and my girlfriend 23F of three years got into a pretty bad fight and nearly ended things. We’re currently trying to work things out. The next morning she stopped by house just to see me and apologize for some of the things that have been going on.
(I still live at home and my mom was the one to open the door because my room is on the other side of the house and didn’t hear it)
At breakfast when I asked if Her and my Gf had talked she said “Nope not really” but after spending the day with my mom and talking to her about the argument we had. My mom informed me that She and My girlfriend had talked that morning and had even texted. In the moment I was fine with it because they do care about each other and I thought it would be good for my girlfriend to talk to someone. After telling me they talked my mom said not to mention anything to her as she didn’t wanna break her trust.
But as time goes I find myself feeling upset with my mom and girlfriend. Im upset with my mom because my mom hid the truth in the morning during breakfast. I feel upset with my girlfriend because I feel like that was a boundary that just doesn’t sit right with me.
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You should discuss this point together
Yeah bro that’s a weird triangle. You’re not wrong for feeling off your relationship should stay between you two. Private convos with your mom cross a line, even if it wasn’t with bad intent.
It’s not even the texting – it’s the secrecy. If you are trying to rebuild trust with your GF, side convos with your mom behind your back don’t help. You are not crazy for feeling weird about it.
I would leave this one alone, she probably went to your mom who has better insight into you than anyone she could think of and wanted to save the relationship. your mom was right to not tell you at breakfast and shouldnt have broken the trust later on by telling you then.
Your girlfriend most likely went to your mom for advice, because she knows that no one else knows you better than your mom does.
She was also most likely trying to get advice from a trusted woman’s perspective on relationships and how to overcome an argument with a partner.