Men, how far are you going on a first date and why?

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A hug, a peck, making out, fondling, alllll the way? And just because you’re horny, feel chemistry, think she’s attractive etc. with what intention if any at all?

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  1. SewerSlidalThot Avatar

    I have put in a girl’s butt on the first date on two separate occasions. So there’s that.

  2. Long-Tip-5374 Avatar

    I’m gonna take her to Denny’s in my convertible 1995 Geo Tracker for a romantic $6 dinner off of the Value Menu. Then I would hope that that would win her over enough for some missionary style sex on my futon mattress that’s on an IKEA frame in my efficiency apartment.

  3. DevConstextine03 Avatar

    Just sit in her lap and sleep.

  4. No_Salad_68 Avatar

    As far as she wants.

  5. shinn497 Avatar

    I think the farthest I have ever gotten was making out when I was younger. But older me does not care as much for dating for sex. Not that I am not horny, I am about the same as before. But, if I actually could date, I would be more sincere and focus on the person. If we are going to be sexual, it will come in due time.

  6. Ghostforever7 Avatar

    Probably just a hug, I don’t want to give the wrong impression.

  7. timespaceoblivion Avatar

    The first date is to get to know each person’s personality. Even if I felt some kind of chemistry, if I’m looking for something long-term the farthest I would go is a hug goodbye and look forward to a second date (if we decide to meet again).

  8. bobwin770 Avatar

    Most younger men would likely have sex on a first date if they could, but realistically it’s going to come down to how far she wants to go. Your best bet is to assume nowhere as this is mostly the case and be happily surprised if it goes any further than that. If you push for anything physical too soon in her eyes she will not be back for date number 2.

  9. SadSickSoul Avatar

    Just a hug. Everything else is off the table for a good long while.

  10. tnerb253 Avatar

    As far as I can.

  11. EarthParticipant Avatar

    A hug every time. A peck kiss if we lock eyes.

    If we’ve been texting an abnormal amount of time, that could be a make-out session.

  12. Scarred_wizard Avatar

    Personally, at most a hug if things were going well. At the first date, I don’t know the person well enough for more.

  13. turnballZ Avatar

    As far as we get, if it feels right and everyone’s in agreement. It can be a challenge though because consent needs to be crystal clear. So if there’s any inebriation then I’d typically settle ending the eve with a cuddle and then wait for the morning if she’s soberly still down to get down.

  14. Dontneedflashbro Avatar

    I’m going with the full court press on date one. Level two I’m trying to invade the jungle. Making out, hj, and playing grab ass are all on the table. With the ladies that I’ve clicked with in the past, we’ve always at least made out on date one. 

    I’m not going to view a woman as less than for getting physical early. I wouldn’t also view her as quality for making me wait. The other qualities outside of sex determine what slot you belong to.

  15. Known-Historian7277 Avatar

    Fondle, always fondle bro

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  16. 0ut_0f_st0ck Avatar

    Dancing in the moonlight. Tonight would be a perfect first date night, tomorrow too.

  17. RealPrinceZuko Avatar

    Always try to go for the kiss unless you have zero intention of seeing them again. I’m also always down for more if the chemistry is there.

    Don’t limit yourself unless you want to

  18. Texas_Kimchi Avatar

    Ill follow the lead. I’ve had dates that ended with a hand shake and dates that ended 3 days later.

  19. savvysmoove90 Avatar

    Most of the time it’s sex upon the first meeting but there are times where it’s been a few dates first. I’m just rollin with how things are going honestly

  20. Boutt350 Avatar

    Shes bound and blindfolded waiting for me on the first date.

  21. ToughShaper Avatar

    31m here who actively goes on dates now.

    Really depends on the girl, but usually a make out at the end. One of the girls even said, “You should kiss me again” right before we were parting for the day. Too bad she has a drug use problem (cocaine).

    But last night’s date she gave me a side hug. So there is that.

    If we don’t kiss, I will text her that I don’t think we should see each other again. I’m definitely on the long streak of being the one cancelling the dates/”breaking up”.

    Honestly, if we were to hook up it’d be a red flag on how easy it was.

    I recently dated a girl for a few months and we had our first sex on 3rd date.

  22. DarkDoomofDeath Avatar

    Hug, peck, or a smooch. I’m old-school and take things slowly. Every advance of physicality needs to be emotionally and intimately significant and honest. It’s about romance, not just desire or passion or chemistry – it’s all of those and something even more meaningful…something truly special.

    Helps weed out those who are just out for a good time but don’t really want anything serious. Keeps the sexual body count and risk of disease low, too.

  23. Angry_GorillaBS Avatar

    It’s always dependent on the vibes, I never went in with any intentions but certainly not with any limits either.

  24. pm-me-racecars Avatar

    In my single days, I’d go out trying to have fun.

    Sometimes, that meant wild sex. Sometimes that meant a nice conversation over dinner.

    I would always plan my first dates to go somewhere or do something that I’d be okay with doing on my own anyway. Then, I’d go out and be happy with wherever things went. I’d have no problem taking someone back to my place or going back to theirs, but I’d also be perfectly okay if nothing happened. I didn’t even kiss my now fiancée on our first date.

  25. Prof_Scott_Steiner Avatar

    I’ve had sex on about 1/3rd of all my first dates. I’m pretty deliberate and I don’t bother with a first date unless I’m pretty sure there’s potential as I have better things to do with my time. All of those sex on the first dates led to relationships.

    As for the rest of it, if all I’m giving you is a hug or a wave, that’s a brush off. Don’t touch me.

    Who does pecks? We’re all big boys and girls and thems. Don’t give me a kiss without tongue.

  26. Secure-Pain-9735 Avatar

    If it goes well, I might ask if I can see her ankles.

  27. serene_brutality Avatar

    Being that sometimes I go without sex for like a year, and I’m reasonably into her, if she’s willing to sleep with me on the first date and she doesn’t seem shady/dirty/crazy, imma do it.

    Thought it’s not true across the board women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can.

    I know I’m gonna get but “I know a guy who has a different girl every weekend,” and “I know a girl that hasn’t had sex in three years!” yeah one guy or maybe a couple because you’re in college, and one or two girls who either are celebrate by choice or way too picky considering what they offer. I know like 10 guys who haven’t had sex in a decade, and 10 girls that have a new guy every weekend a couple that have a different guy for everyday of the week. The reality is that most guys are “lucky” to get one or two sexual partners a year while single and looking. Wile most women either have a sneaky link, never going without sex, or have a new partner about every two or three months, give or take, while single and looking.

  28. xKhira Avatar

    However far the mood lets me go.

  29. Quiet_giant05 Avatar

    Id never have sex on the first date but I’d give a kiss or two

  30. wrexmason Avatar

    Whatever she’s comfortable with doing. I’ve ended 1st dates with everything from hugs to a girl letting me put it in her butt. It all depends on how the date goes

  31. DetectiveObjective00 Avatar

    The farthest I got on a first date was when I was supposed to pick her up for dinner but then she dragged me into her bedroom and I ended up drained with bodily fluids by the time I crawled out of it the night after.

    I was 18 and horny that time so I didn’t mind.

  32. poopynips1 Avatar

    Depends on the vibe. I’ve done all of these at some point

  33. jerrycoles1 Avatar

    I’ll sleep with a girl on the first date if that’s what vibes I’m getting and if she’s into it but I will not date that same girl lol

  34. great_account Avatar

    At least a kiss. I am usually pretty good about feeling vibes about sex going into the date tho. I usually pick women who are likely to want to bone soon.

  35. iamwhoiwasnow Avatar

    If we don’t hook up it’s more than ok but I won’t go on a second date with a girl. My 3 longest relationships have all been with women I slept on the first night.

  36. Chief7064 Avatar

    Sometimes men don’t go for it early when they really like someone, completely forgetting women like sex too. We end up imposing some kind of false virtue. If you click you click.

    Flip side is some guys are driven by genuine values and prefer relationship building before sex. Nothing wrong with that either.

  37. Benevolent27 Avatar

    Not dating anymore, but 90% of the time we’d go all the way IF the mood was right. Usually the relationships that came from dating, we’d just end up kissing, but I also got relationships from first date hooking up. If not the first, then the second date was almost always all the way.

  38. TemporaryTension2390 Avatar

    Fastest. Met a girl on tinder. Met up a week later when she was nearby depositing some cash for her boss (maybe she works in retail)? I went to find her. And asked if she wanted to come to my hotel room nearby. She said sure. We went up, had sex, she left and blocked me that night.

    All up 2 hours.

    Another fun one was meet a tinder girl for coffee in afternoon. We gelled and I suggested we get happy hour drinks at a cocktail bar. Of course it escalated quickly back at my office nearby from there and ended up in sex. Maybe 4 hours all up

  39. MilesYoungblood Avatar

    Nothing. It should be gradual imo, and I really want to go slow before making sexual advances.

  40. RogueTrooper-75 Avatar

    I will touch her arm a few times in conversation. A hug at the end. If she wants to take it further she will need to make the next move or wait for the second date.

  41. AgeSilly6455 Avatar

    Hug for good measure
    Peck on the 2nd date

  42. Banzaikoowaid Avatar

    Were I not dating a cute asian guy I’d say that my answer is dependent upon how comfortable, attracted and interested in one another we are. Horniness is one thing but I’m not fond of hookups nor one night stands. Sex is special to me, and a mutual display of vulnerability, sensuality, beauty, respect, and trust in one another so if her and I go all the way on the first date I’m committed until given reason not to. Such reasons would of course be things such as her being crazy, abusive, violent etc.

  43. A_Stoic_Dude Avatar

    A hug. If she goes farther, then not gonna say no. but yeah I’ll see it as a red flag and she’d get taken off the relationship material list.

  44. Ecstatic_Alps_6054 Avatar

    I always have sex on the 1st date because she wants it…it has to do with my masculine energy she senses and submits herself willingly….

  45. AddictedToMosh161 Avatar

    I go all the way if she is open for it. Why not? I like sex, its a good thing if she likes sex too. And its important to me to be sexually compatable. I like it when we can establish early on if we match there too. 10 dates just to find out a big, important thing doesnt work out? Nah.

  46. FrancisGalloway Avatar

    Hug (if I kinda like her), peck on the cheek (if I really like her), or sex (if she clearly wants it and she’s attractive).

    3 does not imply 1 or 2, I’ve never had a serious relationship from first-date sex.

  47. AnonymousResponder00 Avatar

    Depends on the date. If the date is great and she wants to, why not have sex? If she’s not comfortable with that, we don’t have to have sex. I’m willing to court her for a few dates.

  48. FJBP95 Avatar

    The farthest I ever go is a kiss on the cheek. My mom told me that’s what I should do, and it just kind of stuck.

  49. Rabrab123 Avatar

    If it is casual all the way, if it is not then usually a kiss or hug at the end.

  50. DocklandsDodgers86 Avatar

    Hug at the beginning, maybe some light touches if the situation is appropriate enough (accidental brush of her arm during a game of mini-golf) and end with a hug – maybe kiss on the cheek if she was ecstatic enough about the date and I want another date with her.

  51. MessedUpVoyeur Avatar

    None of those. First date is developing report and talk for me.

  52. JamesMattDillon Avatar

    A few times the first date ended with sex.

  53. matthewisonreddit Avatar

    It depends, but all the way isn’t off the table. It’s just quite unlikely I’ll feel attracted and trusting enough for it…… unless I’m hella drunk then I could be incredibly stupid (and the sex won’t even be good)

  54. AntonioGarcia_ Avatar

    I might give like a high five…

  55. User83829362 Avatar

    Clapping cheeks like I’m dying in an hour.

  56. palatine09 Avatar

    If you are under 18, then you’ll learn, if you are over 18, I literally don’t understand the question. You’re not deciding anything, you’re with another person, you sort it out between both of you.