I don’t know what to do. My parents have spent over 20 years locked in a toxic, unstable marriage. Screaming, fighting, confusion, no direction, not even high school education. I left the East Coast to breathe, to build my own life in Los Angeles.
But now they’ve had a financial breakthrough. My dad, a veteran, just got a VA benefit that raises their income to $10,000 a month. They want me to move them here and become the one who fixes it all… money, paperwork, jobs, counseling, everything. They even said they’d funnel the money to me if I help support them.
The thing is, my boyfriend is scared shitless about our future. He told me straight up:
“You’re inviting total chaos into our world. You’re risking everything we’ve built.”
And he’s probably right. But I can’t ignore that my mom was trafficked. My dad grew up with nothing. They never had a chance. He recommended I give them 6-12 months to prove themselves, but they don’t want to wait.
They’re shopping now for places and my time is short.
Please, if you’ve been through something like this, tell me what to do.
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You can care, but it’s not your job to fix them. Help a little if you want but protect your peace. Set boundaries.
How on Earth do they expect you to unfuck lives so deeply fucked??? Seriously, talk to them about realistic expectations, and what you can, cannot, and absolutely fucking WON’T do for them.
Like, if you have any sense, you will absolutely positively, NOT agree to be their counselor, especially their marriage counselor! No, any poor bastard who takes that on will need to be paid real money for that nightmare, and will need to be able to go home and enjoy a private live without their chaos.