This has happened to me three times. I would date a woman and she became too attached. When I tried to end it they wouldn’t leave (at least not easily). In one situation she came to my apartment and slept in front of my door. Another woman fell to her knees and wrapped herself around my leg while sobbing. I’ve had women come to my job. Others would call, text, instant message, and email me constantly. Twice I gave in and allowed the relationship to go on much longer than it should have. I mean years. Since then I have done a much better job at standing my ground and setting boundaries. However, I know I’m not the only guy who has had this issue. My apologies if this comes off the wrong way but I’m seriously asking to see how others dealt with this. I’ve always envied guys who are able to love em and leave em.
How did you finally end a relationship with a woman that wouldn’t let go?
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You put up boundaries and stand firm. Tell them that behavior won’t be tolerated. Being friends even after a relationship ends isn’t bad but continuing a relationship to appease someone else at the cost of your own mental health and peace. Time. Your time you can’t get back. Those women need therapy. Relationships end. Ppl move on. The apartment one is a close deal to stalking, trespassing. Those types of ppl are scary. Find a worded response to end the relationship decently and maybe go no contact or limited contact. Ask to not be seen no showing up uninvited or without your welcome and blessing.
I was in a relationship for about 4 years. I moved to another city to purse a job. I spent the last 6 months on distance and I ended the relationship via phone call. I was so tired and exhausted by that time.
I have this weakness too. Once they start crying and begging I can’t leave them. You have to remember though, they know what they’re doing and it’s a form of manipulation.
I moved to another state
Ya. I am afraid of this and don’t want to let them know where I live, but then if they aren’t coming over what’s the point. Lol
How do you guys even get into these type of situations? Like, I’m not a virgin but I always hear these stories but never see them happen. makes me think I’m either really good at “let’s just be friends” or I am simply not a long term catch, which I feel conflicted about.
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Restraining order and deleted all my social medias. Blocking doesn’t work for hydra.
I bought one a one way plane ticket to the guy I saw her talking to online. She calls me from prison 2x a year. I love it…promising I’ll do things and then never doing it. This has been going on for 15 years. She’s serving 61 lol. Next.Level.Petty.
The first time they do it, they’re just breaking down and flailing
Once you take them back after that though, they learn that works on you
Why would they get bored taking a profit, as the sports fans of us say?
You gotta shut this shit down hard and fast the very first time it happens. No convo, no angle to get back in, just end it, block on everything, remove all access and start moving on
They’re really taking advantage of a lack of boundaries when you think about; the best response is to set and follow through on those boundaries
Painfully
I still loved and love her but I realised we’re not meant to be together. Breaking her heart broke mine and it’s still broken but it is the right decision for me in life.
It was incredibly rocky at the start but I stayed fair and firm. I maintained I’m always open to being friends or friendly and recently after 3 months she has started to message again as friends. Hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’ll never forgive myself for the pain I’ve caused her.
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Become a ghost. Go no contact and if you need to give back items, use a proxy friend for any necessary communication like giving back items, etc. From personal experience, meeting in-person prolongs the inevitable and makes you feel conflicted.
To this day I still can’t get rid of her. She’s tattooed my name on her. No matter how many times I block her she gets a new phone and hits me up on there. Luckily she doesn’t bother every day like she used to. But once in a while she’ll randomly appear.
lol are you fckin serious you got pickmeishas out here acting like this? NO game WHATSOEVER! Holy sht! 😂
Coming from a woman that has experienced this type of perso ! You need to respect your own boundaries in order from someone else too, once they they know they can push your boundaries, they will continue to push them in order to get what they want not what you’re want.
Take time and dont date, I made a decision not to date till I knew exactly what I wanted and expected from a man and now I do know I wont settle for less and ive been single 3 years but ive never been happier and I dont deal with crazy anymore
Idk if i can give you advice as a woman, but as someone who lived more than what you describe of stalking, and from people i didn’t even go out with. I can tell you if they want to stalk there’s nothing you can do except ignoring and being indifferent towards them, like they don’t exist, like you don’t even see them when they’re right there, blocking everywhere on social media on the phone etc.. restraining orders could help too
She’s still on speed dial for a booty call whenever it’s needed 15 years later. A never-ending situationship until she gets over her daddy issues and doesn’t let it continue.
/s incase you think I’m actually a monster. 😵💫