I’m tired of being the quiet one. I want to speak up more and not second-guess everything. Real advice would mean a lot.
What helped you become more confident socially?
r/Advice
I’m tired of being the quiet one. I want to speak up more and not second-guess everything. Real advice would mean a lot.
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Caring less about whether people will think you’re cringy or corny or whatever
Speaking up and feeling confident in your own judgments and decisions is usually something that comes with age and maturity.
Of course, you have to balance that confidence with the need to be aware of how your behavior affects other people… you don’t want to come across as being arrogant, for example.
If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you?
You might be having excessively high expectations of yourself… remember, we all grow and develop a different rates.
Asking people about themselves and being more curious. Like really trying to understand what someone is talking about and asking genuine questions about them if you don’t understand something or want more info.
Honestly? Practicing small things helped like saying one extra thing in a convo, or talking to a stranger at the store. Also, reminding myself people aren’t judging me as much as I think. The more I did it, the less I overthought. Start small, be kind to yourself, and it gets easier. You’ve got this.
u asked for real, imma be real with ya, last thing this world needs is another loud mouth speaking about what they think and their feelings. instead become really good at something and let actions speak for itself.
Learn to read the room. Observe how others who are socially confident interact with others.
Ask questions about something someone has just said. Following up on what people say helps is great.
Master the art of small talk
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes the more you put yourself out their the more you learn observation is key.
We will all be dead soon enough. So…whatever, nothing matters anyway.
And if my gf loves me, I must be a fucking amazing guy ngl.
For me, just jumping in with small comments helped. The more I talked, the easier it got. Confidence comes from trying, not waiting to be perfect.