I (25M) living in Sweden was outside on a weekend with a friend. We just exited the metro on the south side of the inner city, those from Stockholm knows that the park close to Medborgarplatsen is known for having lonely intoxicated people hanging around.
Anyways, I see one really drunk lady just stumpling around the park alone, a normal sight sadly, then a man comes into the picture and grabs her and start walking away with her still not walking properly.
I ran up to them and asked her “Hello, may I ask if you know this man”, this is were it all went south. She said that thats her man (assuming husband or boyfriend) and I was quick with answering “okey, great!” But the man was not happy at all. He claimed I was disrespectiv to him, the lady was quick to tell him to chill and she hugged me and said thanks for checking anyways. The guy kept buggin about how I have slandered him, and that I should be ashamed for doing this to him. He even called me the swedish equivalent for “House n-” (we both were black). I got pretty mad and told him to screw off and I would have done it again.
So guys, AITA and should mind my own bussiness in the future?
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I (25M) living in Sweden was outside on a weekend with a friend. We just exited the metro on the south side of the inner city, those from Stockholm knows that the park close to Medborgarplatsen is known for having lonely intoxicated people hanging around.
Anyways, I see one really drunk lady just stumpling around the park alone, a normal sight sadly, then a man comes into the picture and grabs her and start walking away with her still not walking properly.
I ran up to them and asked her “Hello, may I ask if you know this man”, this is were it all went south. She said that thats her man (assuming husband or boyfriend) and I was quick with answering “okey, great!” But the man was not happy at all. He claimed I was disrespectiv to him, the lady was quick to tell him to chill and she hugged me and said thanks for checking anyways. The guy kept buggin about how I have slandered him, and that I should be ashamed for doing this to him. He even called me the swedish equivalent for “House n-” (we both were black). I got pretty mad and told him to screw off and I would have done it again.
So guys, AITA and should mind my own bussiness in the future?
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NTA and I hope that lady realises how much of a massive red flag that is from the guy she’s dating.
NTA – Dude should take his gf’s/wife’s advice and chill. And no, don’t stop checking in on people as long as you are reasonably safe doing so.
NTA, you did a good thing and you should continue to do it in the future.
It’s not about you thinking this specific guy must be a bad person and a predator, you just understand the woman was in an incredibly vulnerable state and unfortunately there are people who would prey on her.
NTA what you did was great! And I don’t get why the bf/husband wasn’t thankful? Imagine if it wasn’t him that grabbed her just a stranger and no one stepped in? Then he would have been mad as well.
NTA – You politely inquired. You chose to be safe rather than be sorry at the risk of appearing nosey. The rest is about probabities.
NTA
Not all heroes wear capes!
Yes mind your own business
NTA, good on you! He knows damn well how many bad people are in the world. Getting that offended shows what an ass he is. Any respectful guy would have understood.
NTA
> So guys, AITA and should mind my own bussiness in the future?
Not a guy, but I’m going to chime in anyway. Please don’t mind your own business in the future. You may be saving someone’s life.
NTA You’re a fcking hero
You did the absolute right thing. Don’t let an insecure bf stop you from doing it again if a similar situation happens.
Many years ago I saw a couple arguing at night, the guy was clearly drunk and getting more and more aggressive. I was on my bike so I kept circling at a safe distance, just keeping an eye on them. Showing him I was watching. After a while they understood I wasn’t leaving, the guy screamed to mind my own business but the girl said it was her bf and things were ok, she wasn’t worried and t was ok for me to leave.
You did the right thing 100%
You asked out of concern for her wellbeing and instead of choosing to understand that he got offended and rude. That’s a him problem not a you problem. You did the right thing please don’t let one asshole stop you from doing what is right. NTA
I would say you were a potential hero in this situation. Keep on interfering. That’s angel work. My partner would have thanked you for caring as I obviously could not handle my liquor tonight.
NTA, you’re a hero.