not born into a rich family. You get a full ride to attend a very well connected business school to major in a lucrative major (accounting). you turn it down to major in liberal arts in attempt to attend law school instead.
You can go to law school while studying accounting in college, but study liberal arts to get higher grades to increase your chances at law school.
However, deep down you know law school will be a long shot because of the entrance test required to get in which is really difficult for you but somehow believe/hope you’ll make it.
And so you major in liberal arts simply based on hope, and turn down the full ride to pursue a degree in a lucrative major (accounting) at a very well connected business school. the people you know who studied accounting are now making six figures, and you could’ve purchased a home by now had you studied accounting a while back.
Instead, you cannot afford to live alone for the next 10 years and ontop of that don’t have job security becaues you struggled to find the job you currently have, which pays much less than what you would have earned had you studied accounting, let alone acccounting with a full ride at a well connected business school.
I simply don’t understand how on earth i turned down full ride to a well connected business school in exchange for a liberal arts degree , simply on the hope that i could do well enough on the test to get into a welll connected law school even when i knew deep down i probably couldn’t.
i took a bet on hope despite the reality and now im stuck in a job with no advancement where i don’t make enough money compared to what i could have made , and after i turned down a godlen opportunity to go to a school that couldn’ve changed my financial future forever and would have given me a life of stability rather than instability
am i supposed to really live with myself after this?
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Whoa you really need to take it easy on yourself here. You are nineteen you have your entire life ahead of you and well you may not have made the right decision this time you have learnt from it which you can apply to the future. For all you know this could have been the best decision you have made Only life will give you the answer
Dude, you made a bad call, yeah but you’re 19. You didn’t ruin your life, you just took a detour. Happens to tons of people. You gambled on one path, it didn’t pan out, but you’re still early enough to pivot. Might take a grind, but you’re not doomed. Just learn from it and move forward, fr.
At 19, you still have time to realign your goals. You can pivot majors, take post-bacc courses, or return to more technical fields like accounting even after graduation. If law school still interests you, you can prepare for the LSAT gradually while exploring backup plans that offer stability. The key is to stop punishing yourself and start planning strategically, because your future isn’t ruined, it’s just beginning to unfold.
you’re dramatizing. i’m a school dropout raised through neglect and drug addiction, now with successful career at my 30s. embrace the instability and get on the grind my dude.
I not only pissed away my college opportunity. I spent my 20’s thinking I would be somewhere else. I partied and really accomplished nothing. I finally found my way at about 29 years old. There is no rule saying you have to have it all figured out by 21. Refocus and stay on the grind. There is so much more to experience. End the pity party and get moving forward.
When I was 19 I didn’t even go to college because I wanted to work for Nike. I was a retail sales associate working part time at Footlocker, making $7.25 an hour. By 23 I was the manager of my first store. By 25 I was the manager of a brand new, prototype store created in Philadelphia. I led the team as a solo-manager in a store that required 3 managers to run it. We were the number one store in the company 2 years in a row. I had job offers come from Nike in Boston, Miami and in Beaverton, OR. Nike flew me to their campus. I turned down the jobs because they didn’t pay much.
I met my wife, I had a son with her at the age of 28. We bought a house together in 2019 for $215,000. I left footlocker and found a 9-5 job as a Personal Banker at Wells Fargo. $20,000 pay cut but better quality of life. I was the number one banker in the region in terms of generating loan and credit revenue for the bank. After 2 years at the bank they asked me if I wanted to get licensed as an Advisor. I got licensed as a Financial Advisor by 31. I left Wells Fargo 6 months later and took a job with Morgan Stanley, doubling my income. I was a CSA with MS, no degree which the role required. The field is DOMINATED by people with degrees from prestigious schools. I wanted to be a full blown advisor within 2 years at MS. It didn’t come to fruition, but I had industry experience.
I left last year and went to a new firm, which I will leave undisclosed. Took a pay raise, 20% annual salary bonus guaranteed and a sign on stipend to sweeten the pot. I make more than $100,000 even on a bad year. I’m 35 now. I have 2 kids, a wife, and now own a $500,000 house in a great neighborhood.
If you looked at where I was at 19 you would think I was in the same shoes as you with not much to look forward to. Your life can and will change rapidly. Just work your hardest, continue to shoot high. Always ask for more and you will get it. You’ve got an entire life ahead of you to make mistakes and figure things out!!
Would you have been happy getting up every day to work in business or accounting? If not, you made the right call. Make a plan, and keep making forward progress toward doing something you enjoy and are passionate about.