So me and my girlfriend have been together for nearly 3 years now up until about 2 months ago we used to smoke weed maybe once or twice a month, real casual smokers, but now my girlfriend smokes probably two to three cones a day, iv brought up before that I wasn’t a big fan of smoking that much and I do have a bit of issue with my up bringing (two alcoholic parents). Iv mentioned to her that it’s hard not seeing the girl I fell in love but only the high/stoned version or her. She did cut back a little after that but has picked it back up just the same, another issue is that I’m mostly paying for it, or driving her around to pick up more when she runs out. I’m a little lost at what I should do.
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Stop trying to control her. Let her be herself if you don’t like it find another girlfriend
If wants weed more than you..well you know, you have the right to be with someone that 100% present and not stone half of the time. Maybe is time to sit down, have a serious talk and see what you decide to do. People takes weed lightly but truth is that some can’t just live without.
I mean, you can decline to buy her weed. You don’t have to!
I’d also get curious about what changed, from her perspective. Going from occasional use to possibly qualifying for a substance use disorder diagnosis is a big change! Has her mental health been rough? Any major stressors?
I’ve studied under a professor in cannabis, he’s been published in NY times frequently for his amazing research. Maybe do some research, and talk to her.
I use it for my anxiety and depression, it gets me active and out of my head for a bit. Calms me down.
My profesor uses it to help his asthma, he uses it once a week and it gets rid of it for the time.
Stop buying it. “Sorry, I’ve told you how I feel about substance use, and you’re taking it too far for my comfort. I’m unwilling to pay for your weed, or to facilite your access any further.” Also, have you gone to adult children of alcoholics meetings? They’re amazing. Their model actually heals trauma. It’s pretty great.
She may not be able to curb her use or want to, and you can set another boundary. “I’m uncomfortable being around you when you’re high, so we won’t be able to spend time together when you smoke.”
Stick to it. Show her what she’s missing, and if that’s not enough with some time…leave.
As a daily weed smoker female I’ll tell you exactly what is gonna happen.. if you go against her habit and try to control her (also just because YOU have a problem with it).. she will choose smoking over you.
What she does or not and how often, is unfortunately not up to you to decide or try to change.
If you’re unhappy, just leave.
Also, I see nothing bad in smoking daily if you have free time and having a relaxing moment.
I got boyfriends before that didn’t like my habit, safe to say they were out of the picture in no time, I just preferred to find a boyfriend that smokes daily with me.. found one and Im happier since.
Im also not sure what you’re trying to link for her mentioning your alcoholic parents.. weed is something else. If you have parental issues due to addiction, go get some therapy for it.
She doesn’t have kids herself and you’re not hers, so grow up and let her enjoy her life as she wants.