AITAH for not giving my sister a wedding gift because she didn’t come to mine due to ‘moral reasons’?

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My sister declined my wedding invite last year because she disapproved of my partner (we’re a same-sex couple). Now she’s getting married and expects a generous gift. I declined, saying it didn’t feel right. She called me petty. AITAH?

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  1. Inevitable_Speed_710 Avatar

    Get her a pride flag.  

  2. YaGirlObiBro Avatar

    “That’s pretty wild, it’s the same day I wash my partners hair. Can’t come, shampoo is expensive”. 😂

    You’re definitely not the asshole here, actions have consequences

  3. AssociateFun7604 Avatar

    If that’s truly the only reason she didn’t come to your wedding then NTA, and I’m surprised you’re even considering going to her wedding, let alone getting her a gift.

  4. honeydewkissy Avatar

    no, u’re not the a-hole. she rejected ur wedding over who u love — it’s fair not to celebrate hers. that’s not petty, that’s holding boundaries

  5. YllanaKett Avatar

    NTA, she’s lucky ur still coming

  6. UhLeXSauce Avatar

    Is your partner invited to her wedding? Has she shown any regret? Even if she has she’s still not entitled to shit.

  7. grayblue_grrl Avatar

    I can’t imagine expecting a present from someone who didn’t respect me enough to celebrate with me for the same event.

    She’s got a wild imagination that it makes sense to her.

    NTA

  8. Cardabella Avatar

    Gift her a beautiful framed wedding photo of yours to compensate for her having missed it. The frame should be rainbow.

  9. VelvetVixenco Avatar

    NTA, The pot called the kettle black 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️. 

  10. MoomahTheQueen Avatar

    So the only reason she wants you at her wedding is to collect the gift? She’s already shown you how much she cares about you. Return the favour and don’t attend

  11. winterworld561 Avatar

    NTA. She’s a homophobic piece of shit. She deserves nothing.

  12. Lynne1915 Avatar

    I wouldn’t consider a gift, nor would I go.You owe her nothing.

  13. neogeshel Avatar

    Sometimes being an asshole is fun

  14. Funtivity_Director Avatar

    How did the generous gift come up? Did she ask you directly for something?