I came back from a vacation and I forgot I left something in my sister’s room. I decided to not knock when I enterred. You see a momth before the trip, she went to my room without permission. She had a call. She claimed she went to my room because the signal was stronger. I got mad and told her to apologize but she goes “Im in the workforce, you are not. You dont know whats a life or death situation”. So I left my friend’s birthday gift in her room. Inwent in the got it then when I exited she was outside and saw me exit the room.
She got mad at why Im in her room without her permission but I told her she did the same thing but again she goes “Work can be life or death. Your friend’s Trader Joe’s is not”. I called her a hypocritical b*tch and she got so mad. We argued then I told her I have to go let’s forget this ever happened.
Okay so Inrealized I did not have to call her a b word. When Inapologized about using the b word she asked me “are you gonna apologize for enterring my room”? I told her “not unless you apologize also for doing the same thing”. She just told me “You will never know what life or death is until you start your first day of work on monday”. I told her whatever and let’s move on. I only have to applogize for the b word. Nothing else.
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I came back from a vacation and I forgot I left something in my sister’s room. I decided to not knock when I enterred. You see a momth before the trip, she went to my room without permission. She had a call. She claimed she went to my room because the signal was stronger. I got mad and told her to apologize but she goes “Im in the workforce, you are not. You dont know whats a life or death situation”. So I left my friend’s birthday gift in her room. Inwent in the got it then when I exited she was outside and saw me exit the room.
She got mad at why Im in her room without her permission but I told her she did the same thing but again she goes “Work can be life or death. Your friend’s Trader Joe’s is not”. I called her a hypocritical b*tch and she got so mad. We argued then I told her I have to go let’s forget this ever happened.
Okay so Inrealized I did not have to call her a b word. When Inapologized about using the b word she asked me “are you gonna apologize for enterring my room”? I told her “not unless you apologize also for doing the same thing”. She just told me “You will never know what life or death is until you start your first day of work on monday”. I told her whatever and let’s move on. I only have to applogize for the b word. Nothing else.
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ESH
Both of you need to grow up.
What does your sister do that a phone call for her job is life or death? That’s just over exaggerated… It’s just an excuse to make herself feel important.
You’re sisters. You probably seem fairly young if you’re arguing over going in each others rooms (I think I had that argument with my sister once when we were young teenagers).
Really it doesn’t matter… Like the other person said, you both kind of need to grow up. Who cares?
So your sister was home and it would have taken you a minute to ask her?
YTA. You both need to grow up
ESH
You two are petty siblings. And sounds like you’re both old enough to know better and not want to bust the other having private time.
Lock your door. And quit leaving your belongings in her room.
And she should get a better phone service that allows her to take her work calls not in her sibling’s room, and that her work is not reason for invading your space.
Sheesh, it’s like reading something my kids would do.
YTA If you want respect for something, you have to provide same. You are right to demand for her to knock, even if it is in her work world, life or death. She can issue a quick warning knock in that situation and blast in if necessary but the way you handled all this, you were looking for a fight and you got one. Talk to your sister and apologize for calling her a bitch, but be calm and reasonable about asking her to respect your boundaries and knock when entering your room, even in a necessary business situation ( which I am not sure why she’d need to enter your room for her business needs) and you will provide same respect to her in future.
NTA. When you work on Monday, then you can enter her room with impunity?
One day you will both grow up and learn how to play nicely
ESH. Unless your friend is a heart surgeon or something, her work is not life or death. If she is, then her work needs to spring for a better phone service for her. And both of you need to stay out of each other’s rooms.
NAH. You’re two sisters fighting over going in each other’s room. This is a normal, ordinary situation and you shouldn’t let this hurt your relationship. Make up, because life is really short and this will feel incredibly small in a few years.
INFO: What are your ages? What does your sister do that’s “life and death”?
If you are teenagers living in your parents house talk to them about getting a lock for your room, problem solved.
Two wrongs don’t make a right. Grow the eff up. ESH.
Grow Up!
Honestly this just sounds like siblings being siblings to me.
My sister and I would also have irrational moments just because 🤷♂️