For added context, I (36F) don’t have any pets because I don’t want them and the added responsibility of having them – going for walks, medical needs or general trips to vet, grooming them, and cleaning up after their business, plus I am also away for work often. She (34F) knows this. She recently got pregnant, and as you know pregnant women should limit their intereaction with litter. We get along fairly well I would say. She and her bf (lives 40mins away) lightheartedly said that “It’s your (my) responsibility to clean the kitty litter now”. We live a block away from each other and I want to help and provide support as best as I can, just not with that. I feel like a shitty sister, but I also don’t want to do it. AITA?
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For added context, I (36F) don’t have any pets because I don’t want them and the added responsibility of having them – going for walks, medical needs or general trips to vet, grooming them, and cleaning up after their business, plus I am also away for work often. She (34F) knows this. She recently got pregnant, and as you know pregnant women should limit their intereaction with litter. We get along fairly well I would say. She and her bf (lives 40mins away) lightheartedly said that “It’s your (my) responsibility to clean the kitty litter now”. We live a block away from each other and I want to help and provide support as best as I can, just not with that. I feel like a shitty sister, but I also don’t want to do it. AITA?
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> 1. Not helping pregnant sister with cleaning her kitty litter.
2. She’s pregnant, and I have time and ability to help do that, I just dont want to because I dont want to spend my time doing that.
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NTA. It’s boyfriends responsibility. You’re supporting her other ways and doing his job anyway.
NTA
She can just wear gloves.
You get toxoplasmosis by ingesting contaminated cat shit.
You don’t have to but it would be nice. Toxoplasmosis isn’t something I would wish upon my sister and you live nearby.
Otherwise your sister will need to pay someone to tend her car litter.
NAH
NTA. You didn’t get her pregnant. This is the responsibility of the person that did, regardless of how far away he lives. Maybe, maybe, had she asked, doing it a time or two would be fine. She didn’t ask, though. She just stated the assumption that you should. That kind of entitlement would put me right off from offering to help.
NTA. The boyfriend should do it, why arent they living together ? Alternately, she could get a neighborhood kid to do it for a few bucks.
You’re NTA. Instead of voluntelling you that you’re doing it, they should be coming up with a solution that has them covering their responsibilities.
If they don’t intend to move in together, she can get one of those self cleaning boxes that would only require him to come over and change the litter once a week.
Why can’t her boyfriend do it?
NTA. Not your cat. Not your business. Her boyfriend can.
Guessing OP isn’t going to want to change diapers either.
NTA, Pregnant women should not come in contact with cat feces.
I am not a fan of cats, but still I changed the kitty litter for my wife’s cats while she was pregnant, her BF needs to step up.
NTA, why should it be your responsibility to clean it, does she not have a boyfriend that lives with her? And even then, if the boyfriend impregnated her, then he should be the one to clean most of that up, not you. She’s the AH for pushing that responsibility onto you
It’s not your problem, but would it really be a big deal for you to help out?
I really don’t see how this involves you unless you had a pre existing agreement with your sister that you’d do this if she became pregnant. She has a whole boyfriend who can scoop shit if she deems it too dangerous, I don’t see why it would be your responsibility at all. Nta
Nope. The boyfriend can do this
tell her to get a mask or pay someone to do the chores she cannot. Why is it her decision to make it your responsibility?
NTA. Who is helping her with the baby?
They should have figured this out before they got pregnant. Their lack of planning is not your emergency.