For many years she was always the only single/childless one in the friend group and I know from our conversations that was hard on her. She married her husband in the summer of 2022. They got pregnant fast and had their oldest daughter nine months after the wedding. Four months later, she told me they were already expecting again and that it was planned, at one point telling me she knew her reproduction clock was ticking and she knew she’d have to make up for lost time.
Their 1st/2nd daughters are 11 months apart. They had a third girl in January making 2/3 just over 11 months apart as well. So she birthed three babies in the span of 22 months. She’s recently announced her fourth pregnancy, currently about three months along. I am at a loss for words. The first three (and so far the current one) have all been smooth sailing according to her but I can’t imagine this is good for her body long term. Quite honestly, I’m all shocked how fertile she still is! She credits having a younger husband (he’s 28), but from my understanding, one partner having high fertility doesn’t offset the others low fertility so I’m guessing they are both just super fertile?
Everything has seemingly worked out well for her, their babies are healthy, no notable issues during pregnancy, she’s been able to have natural births with all three so far. I can’t imagine this lasting though if they continue at such a rapid rate and really do worry for her. I’ve read stories about the damage having Irish twins can do to a woman’s body and she’s on her 4th in a row now.
I’ve thought about bringing my concerns up in a nice way but feel like that wouldn’t be the right move. She’s truly joyful in this current season of life she’s in and I don’t want to make her scared or feel bad but I also don’t want to lose her to a freak health incident. Really conflicted here.
TL;DR : My friend is pregnant with her fourth child in three years and I’m becoming concerned for her health even though she ensures she’s doing great.
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Mind your own business and have business to mind. If she comes to you with her concerns, be supportive.
Well. That horse has fled the stable. Maybe though she’s only going to have 4 kids and so now it’s moot anyways? And I’m sure he doctor and everyone else in the world has already told her what’s what.
Women used to have tons of babies. Her doctor will let her know if there are any concernd.
Leave your friend’s health to her and her doctor. As much as you want to be helpful, it’s unsolicited advice about the most personal thing she’s going through.
She’s 39. Assuming she wanted kids, of course she probably wanted as early as possible. Also, accidents happen too. Is there like any signs of abuse of something you aren’t mentioning? Because if not, you just sound like you shouldn’t be inserting yourself here, and you’re being nosey. And I say this as someone childfree btw.
Whilst I think your concern is coming from a good place, i think you just need to work with the facts right now and not the what ifs.
As long as she is supported, happy, healthy and the children’s needs are met, all is good.