So my cousin and I have always had a rocky relationship. We’re close in age, but she’s always kind of made little digs at me — nothing outright nasty, but enough to sting. A few weeks ago, at a family dinner, she made a comment like “Well, you’re not really the stylish one in the family anyway” when we were talking about clothes. I just laughed it off in the moment, but it bugged me.
Now her graduation is coming up and she texted asking if she could borrow this dress I wore to a wedding — the same dress she rolled her eyes at when I first got it, btw. I told her no and said I wasn’t comfortable lending it out.
She got super passive aggressive and told our aunt I was being “selfish over a stupid piece of fabric.” My aunt called me saying it’s “just a dress” and that I’m “holding a grudge over nothing.”
But I feel like if someone constantly belittles me, they don’t get to ask for favors. Am I being petty here? AITAH
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NTA but I would be tempted to say “I wouldn’t want to lend one of my substandard dresses to someone as stylish as you”
NTA: “No” is a complete sentence.
The Mean Girl had no problem slagging the outfit – she doesn’t get to wear it. I also wouldn’t put it past her to “accidentally” ruin it before returning it to you (if she does so, that is).
Also, the aunt is an enabling moron. She doesn’t get to dictate what you should hold a grudge over.
NTA. If she’s throwing shade, she can find her own damn outfit. No dress, no drama
NTA. “Aunt, cousin ridiculed me for getting the dress in the first place, now she wants to borrow it? No. She’s made constant comments about how she hates my style, she never says anything about your clothes, you lend her a dress.” Click.
“No. Don’t text me again.”
Block.
Cousin or not, you’re not obligated to be in touch with her.
NTA. If you would lend it to her, you probably would never get it back because “she wears it better.”.
NTA If the dress is so important to them then let cousin and aunt know where you got the dress so they can buy it themselves.
If they don’t buy it, then you know it was just about freeloading and abusing family ties.
Oooh but that dress can simply not be stylish enough for her, and you dont want her to be embarrassed wearing it.
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Oh, hell no. I lent a top once to a friend. It was trashed and stretched when I got it back. Never again. Besides, she belittles your style to make her feel better and yet, obviously likes your style enough to demand a specific dress
NTA. Tell them you donated it to a charity shop after she said it wasn’t stylish
If she didn’t like it why would she want it?
Aunt is OFC enabling her protege entitled Karen of a daughter. Apples or rolling far from the tree. NTA
Wait.. they know the reason you said no? Including your aunt?
NTA.
Aunty can get her another, “stylish” dress. Problem solved.
NTA, Aunty is trying to get out of a purchase
NTA and yes you are being petty AS YOU SHOULD BE 😁😁
Cousin wants to keep channeling her inner “mean girl”? You double down on the petty! That witch deserves to go to grad in a paper bag!
And remember, you are never obligated to lend out your clothes, or anything else, to anyone; no one is entitled to your belongings except you!
Hilarious she called your aunt to go into bat for her 🤣🤣 Now you get to tell them both NO without trying to laugh too much 🤗❤️All good things come to those who go and get their own things 🤩