When I (F19) was 18 (and partially 19) I was really desperate for money and so started doing cams and NSFW content, people close to me knew about the account but a few people ended up finding through a city sub I posted to (not showing my face).
I was anonymous but I do have some distinct features where if you hung out with me for a while you would be able to connect the dots.
I found out when a few friends and I were at a bar, the guy I like (M19) showed me my own account and poked fun at some of the content I made as a lot of it was kink/fetish based. Ever since it’s become a joke within the friend group as I had posted a several taboo videos.
I’m really worried because I really like that guy and I don’t want to have inadvertently blown up my own chances, I don’t want him to think that I’m just a gross slut, I just don’t know what to do.
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Just go out with him. When you’re around people be yourself always and show who you actually are. Make it clear what you’re actually into (aka not those kinks) and when you get closer and closer with him maybe reveal the actual type of stuff you’re into and slowly enter dating him
You are what you are and he knows what you are. I’ll be honest there’s a low chance he takes you seriously.
Can’t know for sure bc idk him but that’s just how men generally feel about women who sell their bodies for $5 a month
My advice would be to try to tell him you’re embarrassed ab it and you’ve changed and that you want to leave it behind you, and hope that he believes you and does that
So you’re in the finding out stage of the fucking around line.
The truth is, yes, guys will be much less likely to take you seriously as a potential partner for a monogamous relationship now.
If you’re worried then talk to him about it, if you really were desperate for money he might be ok with it, and it beats prostitution. I personally wouldn’t be able to accept this but we are all very different so it might be ok for him
If he already found ur nsfw acc, we can safely assume he likes those kinds of girls or wtv. Point is, i really think he wont look at you in any bad way you’ve been thinking. High chance he’ll take it better than u expected.
Just go ahead, be urself, and shoot your shot
Someone worth keeping will accept you for who you are and understand the past is extactly what it is.
You deserve a guy who accepts you for who you are and what you have done in your past. I hope he does, but if he doesn’t it’s just down to a compatibility issue. If he’s truly right for you, something like that in your past won’t change how he feels about you or how much he respects you. If he can’t accept all of you, it’s not a big loss.
Also, the more time that passes, the further in to your past this will be, and the less it will matter to you, and to others.
the fact he felt comfortable bringing it up and poking jokes gives me the impression he doesn’t judge u much or want u to feel so beat up about it, look at this perspective, he may be super into it, he could be looking at the account on his free time i never know
God I wish I was a woman of even remote attractiveness in modern times of and could just show a little ass on camera for cash😂
Tbh, this probably blew chances of a serious relationship. He’s aware that if you’re going to post this type of stuff online, it’s unlikely that you would be a “traditional” type of girlfriend.
That said, if he’s not looking for traditional it won’t bug him. It just means he probably wasn’t looking for serious anyway.
Ngl, if he judges you for it, he’s not the one for you. Case closed, move on. I’ve had this happen to me before, except he was partially interested in me until he discovered my NSFW account. Then he was REALLY interested. (For wrong reasons).
Listen, youre either gonna be ridiculed, scorned, or fetishised. In some cases, you’ll be accepted. But those types generally DONT show you your own content and tease you. Your friends are kinda weird for that too. Sounds uncomfortable.
The guy will never see you as a partner, he will only see you now as “friend with benefits”.
Just forget about it!
This always bothers me. Why would a guy date you and spend $$$ on outings when he can get what he wants from you at $5/month?
Respect yourself and the value of your body and future relationships by closing the account. Contact any other platforms that host copies of the data to put in a copyright claim and get them scrubbed. Then pursue the relationship with the knowledge that you honestly worked to put that past behind you. However, realize that this guy may not be interested because of your past.
Play stupid games win stupid prizes, he was bound to know at one point and it’s better he did before anything happened between you two
No matter how many people try to deny it. You are your past. And having your past out there for everyone to see won’t help you hide it.