i [18F] don’t know how to talk to my boyfriend [18M] about physical intimacy

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my boyfriend and i have been dating for around two months, we’re both each other’s official first relationship and it’s the happiest i’ve been in a while. we go on dates, we refer to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, go to each other’s houses etc…

however, during our time dating we held hands once and hugged once (both times which i initiated). when we go over to each other’s places to watch movies we don’t even cuddle or touch that much (if at all) or anything we just watch the movie. and i didn’t think anything of it until my friend made a comment about the situation, she said it was kinda weird cause that’s normally an excuse to make out or fool around and that threw me off so bad because i didn’t think of that at all. does he want to make out? that’s so scary i want to watch the movie. i assumed the both of us wanted to watch the movie.

i honestly don’t really mind how our relationship is going, but i wonder if i should talk to him about it? should i try to initiate more intimacy? does he want to touch me more?

and if i have that conversation with him, how do i start it? do i just go “hey, we’ve been dating for a while, do you want to hold hands/hug/cuddle more often, because i’ve only initiated it two times and i don’t know about your boundaries and stuff.” like how do i even breach this topic, it all feels embarrassing. i know communication is good but it all feels vaguely embarrassing.

TL;DR : been dating my bf for 2 months, we’re happy and official but barely touch (held hands + hugged once, both times me). didn’t think it was weird until my friend pointed it out. now i’m overthinking. when would it be good to breach the topic, how do i have that conversation?

Comments

  1. gollem22 Avatar

    Yall aren’t even hugging goodbye? Are you sure you are dating? Lol just tell him what you would like in a supportive manner, poor boy is probably terrified of screwing things up!

  2. Paleny Avatar

    If you never thought of it as weird and your boyfriend never said he finds it weird, why would you change something?

    You can of course initiate a conversation, but I don’t see a problem if both you and your boyfriend are happy 🙂

  3. Lost-Chicken1964 Avatar

    Just kiss him nex time you are together alone watching a movie start with that