We started dating a few months ago. things were off to a rocky start because I found out his best friends are his ex and her sister. that made things feel really complicated for me emotionally and very quickly i was asked to decide if that’s something I can handle. I feel due to that and navigating that we became serious quickly which in turn made too serious and predictable for me. I don’t want to leave him because he is my DREAM partner. I just am struggling because I still am uncomfortable with his friends, my boyfriend and I feel too serious to be silly together, and i think as a result I am constantly questioning our ability to be together long term, which results in struggling with intimacy. I find him so attractive but I can’t get turned on by him and that’s led to more tension between us. part of me feels like we’re trying to make the impossible work but another part of me feels like maybe we are just going about this wrong and we do belong together. I don’t know. I don’t get why I am feeling so meh about my dream guy. I don’t want to lose him but i can’t shake this feeling of boredom/guilt/anxiety about how obsessed he is with me and how conflicted I am over him. On top of that we are about to be long distance due to his new job and me looking for one elsewhere. I really want things to just click and be okay because he is husband material, but is it possible to make this work or should we call it quits?
TL;DR I am feeling hot and cold with my new boyfriend but he is so perfect and one of a kind I don’t want to end it.