I (23F) matched with this guy (24M) on Hinge and we’ve hit it off quite well so I’d like to get together in person to see if there’s any actual chemistry. Only issue is he’s having surgery for a torn ACL on Monday so we wouldn’t really be able to meet anywhere. I wouldn’t want to put that pressure on him, but a dating rule of mine (pertaining to online dating) is to meet in person within a week to as not over romanticize something that may not work out.
Would it be too forward of me to offer to come by Friday or Saturday with a care package and perhaps some card games so we can meet? Is that excessive or would it be okay?
I have mentioned meeting in person and he’s receptive to it the only obstacle is really this surgery that’s coming up.
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You should give it a shot and if he’s weirded out by then that’s what you need to know about him. Especially the part about playing card games. It’s a sweet idea
I think that’s a great idea
Your dating rule doesn’t make an exception for hospital surgery? You may be a bit too structured.
Maybe this guy is busy with other things in his life, I guess Tuesday is a better moment
I wouldn’t say so. I think it’s sweet and I would view it as a kind gesture if I was on the receiving end of this. However, I would take into account though that you guys have been talking(i’m assuming based on the rule) for less than a week, and surgery is a major thing. I would just be attentive to how he reacts to the offer. Best of luck😊
I’d be weirded out tbh but everyone’s different.
Honestly from a man’s pov I think he’d actually really appreciate that I’ve had knee surgery on my acl mcl and meniscus and couldn’t do really anything for 6 months I was EXTREMELY bored and couldn’t wait until rehab bring some of his favorite snacks and make some sandwiches he will cherish that moment forever and even want to keep talking to you even more
I agree – go for it. I met up with a guy while his had was in hospital after suffering a heart attack but I didn’t show up with high expectations. I lent him my iPhone charger bc their gadgets were running out of battery and I wasn’t too far away. We got dinner, he let off some steam and we just chatted. When the bill came, he said “ok so halfies yeah?”
That was an immediate put of for me lol. I pay for everything myself, never expect someone to cover my bill so I wish he’d given me the chance to offer before imposing
If he’s open to that, go for it. He may not be up to that right away though. You can break your old rules any time you wish.
As a person that likes to be safe the first time meeting someone, I would not feel comfortable having someone over at my house. especially in a vulnerable situation.
Tbh he’s got a lot on, just wish him his surgery and recovery goes well and when he’s up to it reach out to meet up. Then forget about him. If he gets back in touch great, if he doesn’t oh well, wasn’t meant to be.
I would never go to a guy’s house I haven’t met in person.
Let me see if I have this right.
You matched with someone on Hinge, but you’re worried about appearing too forward??
What’s wrong with this picture?
If i were him, I’d enjoy that. Pretty thoughtful gesture too tbh.
All this fear , red flags bla bla bla .
You like the guy . Go help him out .
Honestly you thinking like that .
Tells me you got heart ❤️ and you’re a caring person .
If I can see it so will be .