AITAH for questioning Brazilian GF’s physical relationship with her adult son

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I am 46M. I have a 43F GF who is from Brazil. Her adult son is 23M and is currently visiting her from Brazil. He is staying with her in her apartment. 4 days ago .. I was sitting on the couch with her son when she walked through the living room naked to go take a shower. I looked towards her son and he watched her the entire time she walked through the space. Boobs. Ass. Vagaina. All of it. Last night .. I came over to her apartment a little earlier than I had planned and I walked back to the bedroom and found her and her son laying on the bed together. The were interlocked in a face to face spoon and he has kissing her on her neck and cheek. As soon as I walked in .. they both jumped up and it was a very awkward conversation that followed ..

Apparently in Brazilian culture this is normal. I stated to them that in American culture this is not normal at all. To which they both laughed at me.

I have been with this woman for 6 months and there are no other issues. Am I the asshole for being completely sickened and turned off by this strange behavior and also considering ending the relationship for what I have seen?

Comments

  1. ImAnNPCsoWhat Avatar

    I need a Brazilian to weigh in here because that sure as shootin reads like incest to me. 

  2. TravisBlink Avatar

    Fake and stupid. Reported.

  3. mafia-mama-bear Avatar

    Is it actually her son though? 🤔

  4. RevolutionaryBet9377 Avatar

    Nope. Thats not normal behavior.

  5. Calm_Elderberry_6293 Avatar

    Laying in bed interlocked… not naked I hope?

  6. Aggravating-Salad609 Avatar

    It’s not normal. But if it was considered normal why did they jump up

  7. TangerineCouch18330 Avatar

    How do you know this about the Brazilian culture? Sounds pretty crazy to me. I don’t believe it.

  8. Ornery_Old_Dude Avatar

    Yeah that’s not normal. I’m going to say either that’s not her son or she’s got an incest thing going on there. Either way, time to look for another GF who isn’t crazy.

  9. TJ815 Avatar

    Your just the side piece, dudes the main stay.

  10. Local_City_8174 Avatar

    You have every right to be suspicious. It may not be her son and he may be older than advertised.

  11. JJExecutioner Avatar

    this can’t be real… in no culture is making out with your son on the bed normal.

  12. No-Map2009 Avatar

    Not normal wth

  13. zo0m07 Avatar

    It’s all been said. How confident are you that’s her son, and I simply don’t buy that spooning between parent and adult child is ‘normal’. Look at it this way. If I’m wrong, and that’s totally normal in Brazil (it’s not) can you continue this relationship? If it’s not normal in Brazil (it’s not), can you continue this relationship? I think your path is clear.

  14. FantasticVast01 Avatar

    Spoke to my BIL who’s been in Brazil 20+ years, married to a Brazilian woman and lives with her extended family

    He reckons nudity amongst family members can be very common when swimming, changing, showering while someone else is in the bathroom etc

    But eying up your mothers naked body while she walks to the shower is not normal or acceptable in Brazil and neither is lying wrapped together kissing her.

    So No, this isnt “cultural” and you are NTAH

  15. Sharontoo Avatar

    That’s not her son

  16. Critical-Elephant- Avatar

    How sure are you that that’s her son?

  17. _sugarrrplumm_ Avatar

    Time to breakup buddy

  18. pieville31313 Avatar

    How did you see her vagina when she walked through the room?

  19. emryldmyst Avatar

    Dude. 

    That’s not her son.

    NTA

    Come on …

  20. Top_Reveal_847 Avatar

    … you sure that’s her son?

  21. OctoWings13 Avatar

    She is 100% fucking that dude…no idea if it’s actually her son or not, but they definitely fucking

    …and no. That’s fucked up in ANY culture

  22. SimilarLaw5172 Avatar

    Thats not her son bro

  23. BulkyCaterpillar4240 Avatar

    There is nothing like what you are describing in Brazilian culture. He is not his son.

  24. TheSacredToastyBuns Avatar

    You can’t be this dumb. You’re trolling us.

  25. Own_Bat3044 Avatar

    This is so shit and fake, tell me one culture where it’s viewed as appropriate for family members to cuddle up and neck kiss, blatant karma farm.

  26. LowGeneral9127 Avatar

    Maybe he’s her man from back home, to whom she sends her American money too. He just came in town to visit. 🤷‍♀️

  27. Mywordsandopinion Avatar

    Yeah that ain’t her son. Unless she’s into incest! 🤢🤮

  28. jlm1182 Avatar

    NTA – brazilian here, this is not even remotely common in Brazil

    I didnt met any person or family in Brazil that does that and I’m 43 years old

  29. remstage Avatar

    Lmao are you really this stupid, its her boyfriend

  30. New-Significance-24 Avatar

    Brazilian here. That’s not her son, bro.

    Like, my mom would walk around naked in front of me and my sister (both girls) and sometimes when I’m visiting she’ll ask me to keep her company while she showers (I sit on a bench by the door), but we never make out lol.

    Even without the making out, I think the fact that she’s naked in front of her SON is a bit weird.

  31. prumishon Avatar

    Dude that’s her boyfriend. You are the wallet.

  32. Lucky-Musician-1448 Avatar

    Yeah, not her son. A cousin maybe 🤣

  33. False-Leg-5752 Avatar

    That ain’t her son

  34. Mountain-Donkey98 Avatar

    What? What you described is so not normal for any culture. Its hard to believe its even true its that taboo.

  35. DotAffectionate87 Avatar

    Its not her son…………. Your being played.

  36. ClassroomNo7121 Avatar

    It’s not her son……duh.

  37. Lopsided_Tomatillo27 Avatar

    I don’t know anything about Brazilian culture, but they wouldn’t have jumped out of bed at the sight of you if they thought what they were doing was normal. They both acted guilty. If this was truly normal behavior, it doesn’t make sense for both of them to act as though they knew it wasn’t.

  38. crybaby_669 Avatar

    Brazilian here.

    Dude, this behavior isn’t normal. Staring at parts of your “mother’s” body is weird — that’s not something that happens in our culture, much less kissing her in such an intimate way.
    The fact that they were scared and laughed at you says it all. NTA.

    You should end this relationship — it seems like you’re getting in the way of their relationship.

  39. This-Assumption4123 Avatar

    NTA And that’s clearly not her son. They are using you. I am blind and I can see it.

  40. Even_Sandwich_1071 Avatar

    Your brazalian gf has a boyfriend.

  41. Mental-Ad9734 Avatar

    Half of my family is Brazilian. This is not normal.

  42. Informal_Quit_4845 Avatar

    Rage bait post lmaoooo

  43. Phantom-Xrd Avatar

    Pretty soon that interaction is gonna pop up on porn hub

    SON KISSES HIS BIG TIDDY BRAZILIAN MOM IN NECK 4:00

    NTA, RUN AWAY

  44. CelticKnyt Avatar

    Definitely getting Tommy Boy vibes from this. If it’s real…

  45. Budyob Avatar

    I don’t think it’s her son and if it is, she’s a sexual deviate cut your losses.

  46. Spirited_Block250 Avatar

    Dude she’s cheating and that isnt her son and if it is she’s sleeping with him, yikes

  47. Inner_Pipe6540 Avatar

    It’s her step son NTA

  48. TemperatureNarrow741 Avatar

    Not her son at all lol

  49. LucyGoosey61 Avatar

    That ain’t “Her Son” Your her “Sugar Daddy” she’s using you to get her green card. You better run away as fast as you can.

  50. Hulbg1 Avatar

    Not her son. You’re being played. Nudity is common though.

  51. Weak_Impress3358 Avatar

    Eww. I think I need therapy after reading this

  52. Gideon9900 Avatar

    Culture has nothing to do with what’s going on here. Staring while she’s completely nude, in bed and interlocked and kissing neck and cheek….that’s not her son.

  53. Lucky-Isopod-3873 Avatar

    That is not her son

  54. Sadiocee24 Avatar

    Nta no way that’s her kid 😂 Brazilian or not that’s just weird

  55. No_Hippo_511 Avatar

    Thats not her son.

  56. Nearly_Pointless Avatar

    That’s not her son, that’s somebody entirely different.

  57. Love-uncertainty Avatar

    All signs says that’s not her son🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️

  58. paradisia963 Avatar

    > Apparently in Brazilian culture this is normal.

    Where did you get that from? lol

  59. crownandcoke24 Avatar

    I swear I’ve seen this lifetime movie. NTA.

  60. Fit_Dad_74 Avatar

    Bro… this isn’t her son. She’s using you and disrespecting you to your face and laughing at you about it too.

  61. m9183 Avatar

    “I am 46M. I have a 43F GF who is from Brazil. Her BF is 23M and is currently visiting her from Brazil. He is staying with her in her apartment.”

    FIFY.

  62. atomic_jarhead Avatar

    Sounds like someone has watched a lot of step mother porn on on pornhub. 👊

  63. No_Situation9020 Avatar

    Brazilian here. We are much more affectionate and comfortable around family than other cultures. Nudity is also okay in some families, like “”Yuck, my dad just in a towel coming out of the shower.” But no one was looking at anyone. This is very strange. As for staying in the same bed, it’s normal here, we lie down talking, even with my cousins and aunts Because we’re close. But spooning is absolutely bizarre. Are you sure he’s her son? Sometimes foreigners lie about relatives. If he really is her son. I’m sorry, but there’s something seriously wrong with your family.