So my brother (20M) is now blocked after my ex who I have a dvp against showed up at my home last night begging for a second chance.
I called the cops and they cuffed my ex and I saw that he was booked at the CRJ, but was released on bond around 11am due to his family (or my brother idk) paying it.
My brother called me today to tell me to “drop the charges and DVP and give him a second chance because you’re too good for your now husband.”
I told my brother he’s dead to me and to leave me alone, don’t contact me nor my husband and stay away from my child and future kids.
I documented the texts where he confirmed he was the one who gave my ex the green light and sent them to my lawyer who forwarded them to whoever needs them, including the CPS worker as my husband’s and I son is in foster care right now due to a doctor calling them on us and claiming we didn’t take proper care of him because he was hospitalized due to RSV in March.
My brother is blocked and my mom is trying to get me to forgive and forget what my brother done but I cannot express how much danger he put me in last night for her to understand that what he did could have cost me my life.
My brother is currently being dishonerably discharged from the army because of this stunt and is blaming me for it because he thinks I should have just got back with my ex and left my fiance.
AITA?
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NTA at all
NTA. And if he is being discharged then his conduct was wrong to more than just you. He put you and your family in danger.
NTA
But do I understand this correctly… Your child is in foster care because of Respiratory Syncytial Virus?
If that’s the case then you must have neglected your kid to a certain degree (kept the kid from getting medical attention/care) and I completely understand why your brother thinks you’re … whatever he said. That do goes for your husband too.
You seems to think your brother was so wrong for what he did (and he was).
“I cannot express how much danger he put me in last night for her to understand that what he did could have cost me my life.”
You are aware that’s what he think you did to your own child: put it in severe danger, risking the kid’s life. And the doctor that reported you agree…. Just to put it in perspective. I don’t think you know why your brother is angry with you. But it seems like he believe you were risking your own child’s life and he has lost all respect for you.
I hope the best for your child. Where ever that is.
NTA Sounds like your brother is being dishonorably discharged for actual reasons based on his own conduct. Stay away from him and your ex.
Ain’t no way this happened last night and your brother is already facing a dishonorable discharge. That takes a trial, a dishonorable discharge is equivalent to a felony conviction.
Basically he is not being dishonorably being charged only because of you then. Let your mom know that.
Your brother should date your ex since he seems to fancy him so much.
Your brother is the AH in this story; whatever consequences he faces, he brought upon himself!
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ESH