So I’ve been talking to this woman for awhile. We’ve had some pretty spicy pics/vid exchanges, so I finally ask her on a date. She says she’s not looking to date or see anyone right now, yea that’s fine, not a big deal. A few days later she deletes some pics, which again is fine, but says that she’s hanging out with a guy she’s been seeing. Huh, so I kinda joke about what she said, and she doesn’t reply. 2 days later she sends me another racy video. Dumb question, but it’s probably in my best interest if I just block her and move on huh?
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That depends. Do you want more than sexting? If so, you move on.
She’s not interesting in dating you, she’s interested in exploring her options. If you want a sexting buddy, keep talking to her, but you’ll likely drop her once you find someone else who wants to be with you.
She’s never going to escalate beyond sexting. She’s also happy having that sort of dynamic while you both look for someone else. If you don’t want to keep getting spiciness from her while you keep talking to other women then break it off.
She has been very clear with you about what she wants. Why do you doubt her?
Did you joke or did you say something creepy and possessive? Despite what so many men like to loudly proclaim, few can do purely casual encounters with the same woman.
The mature thing to do here is to thank her for her time etc. and tell her you’re no longer interested. You sound like your ego has been bruised. It sounds like if you just told her to stop she’d stop.
She likes the attention, but not interested in committing to anyone and losing the attention from others. If you want/need the commitment, perhaps it’s time to move on. Just be aware that everyone is different and you might not find someone that’s going to send you erotic messages.
It’s a personal choice that we can’t help you with.
Yeah it’s a dead end but you can still entertain yourself in the meantime while you search for what you want. Probably a good idea to block her though.
You are a back up. Stop it now.
Or maybe she’s cheating. Either way not something good.
She’s stringing you along because she likes the attention and validation you give her.
Move on. No need to block, just mute and leave it unread
Press her more on the remark she ignored or just move on.. sexting by itself doesn’t mean anything. I don’t agree she never wants to meet, she could be having you as backup or just lost herself. But I wouldn’t count on it… If you don’t have the energy to deal with her crap then simply don’t.