We were friends in high school, did extracurriculars together, and there was always a bit of chemistry and some light flirting, but nothing ever actually happened. Over the years, we’ve casually chatted a couple times. We still follow each other on social media and we consistently like each other’s posts.
Lately I’ve been thinking about messaging him more intentionally, just to catch up and see if there’s still a vibe. Would that be random or weird at this point? Has anyone had success reconnecting like this?
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Tell him you’re down to smash. By the time you both get the courage to do something about it it might be too late and you all over there yonder will be in your 70s.
I reached out to my crush and she rejected me, that gave me the clarity I needed to move on. If it does go well, pick drinks in walking distance from your place and ask for coffee this time so you’ll actually escalate and find out if you have sexual chemistry.
You have nothing to lose. He’s not going to think it’s weird. If, for some odd reason he does, who cares? He’s not a part of your life at this point anyway.
I’ve DM’d three women i knew and hadn’t talked to in years. All of them agreed to meet up and catch up. One turned into a relationship, one was mess of a hook up (she failed to mention that she was fucking married!), and one was just a friendly meet up that stayed strictly platonic.
I’ve also had a couple women DM me and all of those stayed platonic. I never thought they were weird because sometimes its fun to talk to people from your past and catch up.